Deb, don't beat up on yourself for crying in front of your dad. First, you are human, not a robot, and, second, it demonstrates to him how much you care. I agree wholeheartedly with the others that you should make the time to be one-on-one with your dad, regardless of your mother's barbs. I think it is a good idea to take him somewhere for a few hours, where just the two of you can enjoy each other. You will regret it if you don't. All we have is today, and we need to make the most of it. Go! Don