Guest Frantastic Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 ...or as my father-in-law writes - Dotter. My mom (76) was dxd August 2005 with non-small lung cancer and bone cancer was found with subsequent testing. We are still very much in a learning phase and have a lot of questions that haven't yet been asked, let alone answered! I'm hoping to find some answers here. I don't know what "stage" she is in, but her GP told me that her chemo was to be "palliative". I've been able so far to look after her at home with the help of twice daily visits of personal support workers. We are very unsure of what all our options are. My first question: I see "NED" in some of your signatures. What does this stand for? I'd be glad to hear from any "dotters", or people living near London, Ontario. Thanks for listening! Frantastic, Fran, or just plain 'ol F. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Welcome, Fran. NED is "No evidence of disease". It is what we all strive for --some get there, some don't. I would guess the bone cancer is metastatic lung cancer, like my wife's, and, as such, your mom's stage would be IV. Take heart. My wife was given 9 months and she is now 3 years and 5 months from diagnosis. Glad you found us. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dadstimeon Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Welcome Frantastic--Glad you found us. Lots of caring, sharing and support here. Stay with us, keep us posted. Rich Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Welcome -- I hope the chemo shrinks her cancer and gives her some good days ahead. Keep us posted on how she does. Rochelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Fran,welcome to our support family.There are lots of good people here that can answer questions and help along the way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missyk Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Welcome, Fran! You'll find many who've walked the road you're travelling before you and great information...along with alot of hugs, prayers, and love. Again, welcome Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don M Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Welcome: I guess you know who NED is now. I think "palliative" teatment is a less aggressive form of teatment that is intended to lessen pain and symptoms of lung cancer. The survival rates can be good though. I hope you mom's cancer is knocked way back. Don M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
francesbean Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Hello! I'm also a dotter and my name is Frances Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jorja Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Hi Fran! Welcome! I am also a "dotter" and I am originally from Woodstock, Ont. (my parents live there). Right now I currently live in Kitchener. There are a lot of great people on this board who can answer any questions you may have. love, jorja Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tatlyn Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Hi Fran and welcome!! I'm sorry that you are having to go through this. I'm not to far from you...I live an hour north of Toronto. Where is your Mother having her treatments? Kingston? My Father was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer in December. Anytime the cancer has spread from the primary site it is staged at 4. I think the term *palliative* treatment is used, as it was with my Father, because *they* consider it not to be a *cure* for stage 4 and intended instead to prolong life (or relieve symptoms, as with radiation). As you will find from reading the profiles of many here with stage 4 lung cancer, it's working None of us know how long our time here on earth will be and neither can any Doctor predict how long our loved ones will live with this disease. Always look forward and keep hope close by. Best thoughts, wishes and prayers, Lynda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trish2418 Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Welcome, Fran. Praying your mother has lots and lots of good days ahead. Trish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hollyanne Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Hi - I too am a dotter. Unfortunately there are too many of us on this board...yet the sisterhood will give you tons of support! (As well, everyone else, too.) I guess your questions were answered...stage IV and pailliative means it is designed to lessen symptoms, not cure. I am glad you found us...keep us posted as you go forward on this journey. Praying that your mom has many great days ahead! Holly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatieB Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Another "dotter" here. Just wanted to point out, please don't focus on the statistics. Take a look at the members here, their profiles and diagnosis. Knowledge is power and education about your moms type of cancer and the treatment options that are available can make a huge difference in medical care and survival...so can having "hope". There are SURVIVORS here, and your mom can be one too! I will say a prayer for that! I look forward to getting to know you..Keep posting! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teacake Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Welcome, Fran. I'm a dotter but not to a cancer patient. I was however sista to one. Oh yeah, my name is Fran, too, and have often used Frantastic! Fran Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhutch1366 Posted March 9, 2006 Share Posted March 9, 2006 Hello Fran and welcome! XOXOX MaryAnn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michelepal Posted March 9, 2006 Share Posted March 9, 2006 Welcome Fran! I will keep your Mom in my prayers. Michele Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunny Posted March 9, 2006 Share Posted March 9, 2006 first your screen name made me smile...then the dotter! I hope you'll stick around and let us support you, and I hope and pray mom gets some comfort and great days ahead... xoxo amie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted March 9, 2006 Share Posted March 9, 2006 Fran, Thank you for the details about your mother, I will keep her in my prayers. I'm inviing you to an evening at the PUB, where you will meet all the gang. You have to tell what you want to drink so I can order it from Cindi. She is the owner of the Pub and those parties are fun. You will meet all the dotters during the evening. xo Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna G Posted March 9, 2006 Share Posted March 9, 2006 Welcome Fran. Prayers going up that the chemo does its job and your Mom meets NED or another good friend around here called STABLE. Donna G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Linda661 Posted March 10, 2006 Share Posted March 10, 2006 I just wanted to say that I am a "dotter" too and welcome. Everyone else has pretty much already covered everything I can think of to say -- just wanted to add my support to your journey. Linda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carolhg Posted March 10, 2006 Share Posted March 10, 2006 Welcome Fran, I will be praying that the chemo works well for your mother. Prayers P.S. What is a "dotter"? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted March 10, 2006 Share Posted March 10, 2006 Hi F, Welcome here. As you can see you certainly have received many responses already. Please if you have any questions, ask away. We are very knowledgebale people here. There is always someone who can answer your questions. Take care honey, and know we are here for you 24/7 you are never alone here. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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