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Bill and Rob, I am so sorry for your loss. Please except my deepest sympathies. Patty

Lori, I'm so happy that this day is finally here for you and your Mama. I know she will be so much more comfortable at home with her family. Patty

Linda, I'm so sorry that your Mom is not doing any better. I know how hard it's been on you. I wish there was more I could do or say. Get some rest and know that I'm praying for you and your Mom. Patty

Keith & Carleen, Just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you both and praying for a miracle. Patty

((Linda)) I'm so sorry for what your are dealing with. It does sound like she's having regrets or just really scared. With you being the one that is there, and so close, she's just taking out her frustrations on you. I can understand that, but it doesn't make it ok or any easier for you. Prayers for you and your Mom. Patty

Carleen, Continued prayers for the both of you. Patty

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad her passing was peaceful. Patty

Connie, I'm so sorry for your loss. Please except my condolences. Patty

My deepest sympathies to Terru's family. Patty

Joanie, I so happy the scans where good!!!!! Enjoy! Patty

Carleen, I am so very very sorry to hear the news on Keith. I wish there was something I could do or say to make it better. You are both in my continued prayers. Patty

Connie, I so glad that you were there to fight for your Mom. Please know you and your family are in my prayers. Patty

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I lost my MIL and Mom both to small cell lung cancer. With my MIL, when she was dx, it was very advanced and she choose no treatment. She was very frail and didn't believe she could withstand chemo. After the first week, one of the tumors had grown so much it blocked her throat so food and liquid was unable pass. We did 38 raditation treatments to shrink that tumor enabling her to eat. Sadley to say, from dx to the end was very short. We had 4 months, 11 days with her. My Mom choose treatment, her cancer had not spread. She did 6 rounds of chemo and no raditation. The chemo did shrink the tumor, but not completely. Between rounds of chemo she played many rounds of golf and enjoyed family and friends. She stayed very active as she had always been. But even with the treatment it only gave her 11 months. Does your Mom have hospice? If she has choosen no treatment and her time is limited, it would be very beneficial to all of you to have them there to help. You and your family will be in my prayers. I know how hard this is for you. Patty

Joanie, The first thing that popped in my head was let me do the worring for you. (I can be pretty good at it sometimes) Lots of prayers coming your way and I'll be waiting to hear the good news next month. Patty

Jorja, I'm so sorry for the loss of your Dad. Prayers to you and your family. Patty

Lillian, I was just wondering the other day where you had been. I'm so glad you posted and even happier to hear that things are going good for you. You so deserve it. Prayers that the good times keep coming! Patty

Malou, I so sorry for your loss. I know how much you loved him and will miss him. You and your family are in my prayers. Patty

Don, Congratulations on the new arrival. Enjoy and spoil her rotten. Patty

Lori, I so glad it went well and I'm still praying you get the results you want. Patty

I'm so sorry for the loss of your Dad. I'm glad you were able to get there and be with him. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. Patty

Ann, Congratulations! Grandbabies are one of the best rewards of being a parent! My Granddaughter wasn't able to say Grandma and some how came up with Cappa for me and Grappa for my husband, they are just so cute. Patty

Kim, I'm sorry Mothers Day was so hard for you. I had a hard time too. I also feel like there is a huge hole in my life, and my heart and nothing will ever replace it. On Mothers day my husband, son and I played golf at a course that we had taken Mom to before she was sick. She always loved playing at new courses. I have a a picture of her and I on this bridge that looks like the Augusta Bridge so yesterday I got a picture of my son and I on the same bridge. She always said she would live on through us, so I figured a day of golf at this course would be the perfect way to spend the day. Is there a special place that you and your Mom shared or a place that reminds you of Her? Could you use that as your place to talk to her until SF gets around to putting her ashes at the cemetary? I don't know if this would work for you but I do think that where ever you are, she will hear you. Please know I'm thinking of you. Patty

Sherri, I am so sorry for your loss. I know how devasting it can be when your not expecting it. Sending prayers to you and your family. Patty

Last week my sister and I finally got around to dealing with my Moms house. On Saturday we had an estate sale and on Sunday we completely cleaned the house out. It is for sale. This was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. Never in my life, have I seen this house empty. My parents were driving home from the beach in 1957 when they saw a sign for new homes. They drove in, looked at it, and bought it. No one has ever lived in this house but us. It’s my Moms house, my childhood home. Every time I’ve been back at the house my brain is flooded with the vision of my Moms last day, her last breath. I so wish I could get past that. That morning, I went into work to do a couple of things and called the house and spoke with my Aunt. She didn’t think there was much time left. I raced down there to be at Moms side. My sister wasn’t able to get there until about 30 minutes before it was over. There were so many people in the house. Our caretaker, my Aunt and Uncle, a very close family friend, a minister from my sisters church and a hospice supervisor. The supervisor talked with me, told me it wouldn’t be long and we could leave her laying there as she was. I sat with Mom, talking to her, holding her hand, telling her I loved her and then a new nurse came in. She took one look at my Mom and pretty much yelled across the room “oh....she’s gone!” No she’s not I told her! So then the nurse says we have to turn her! No! your not touching her, I snapped back. I told the nurse that Sherry (the hospice supervisor) said she would be fine like this. Mom took a deep breath, I called to my sister to get over here. Mom then took one more breath and was gone. I have been so angry about this nurse. We worked so hard to make everything as nice and calm as possible and this dumb A$$ nurse walks in and ruins it. I pray to God that wasn’t the last thing Mom heard. Aren’t these people suppose to be trained better than this? Anyway, last Sunday, after we had finished cleaning the house my sister left. My husband and I were still there and I couldn’t bring myself to leave. I wondered around, cleaning every little thing I could find, I just didn’t want to leave. I couldn’t bear it. It was sooo final. The walk out to the car, the memories that flooded, the mud cakes we made as children layed out on the driveway to dry, playing snake in the grass with the neighbor boys, my boys 1st outings to Grandmas house, and all of the holidays, it was like my entire life flashing before me, so much history so much emptiness. We got into the car and I’m bawling my eyes out. My husband says we can sit here for a while, I told him no just go, then no, please wait, ok go, no wait, ok go. I was totally losin it! Another layer of grief, and this one hit me hard! On the way home I thought of something I’d like to do. Since this has always been my Moms house and will always be as far as I’m concerned, I’d like to go up in the attic and leave a few family photos. Mark our territory or something. Maybe it’s a little crazy but at this point, I don’t really care. Hopefully I’ll find some comfort in it. Thanks for listening. Patty

Many prayers to both of you. Patty