shelliemacs Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Well I am home for a short brake then back to the hospital. my sisters surgery went ok. They were able to remove all of the breast tissue and placed an expander under her chest wall muscle. There were no complications during surgery. when we were able to see her she was bawling, absolutely bawling from the pain. I begged the onc. nurse to give her the pain shot but my sister had to show them her innerds were working if I am getting that point across. Well she was not able to get out of the bed because both arms were bound to her chest and they could not get a bed pan under her because it hurt her too much to move. So I said, "Kate, just pee in the bed will ya" so she did and two shots of demerol followed. I lost my mind and composure on her nurse and then broke down when I went back and apologized because my sisters pain was not his fault. I told him of the losses recently of my parents and he hugged me and said he understood. boy did I feel like a jerk. she will be in for a few days and is on massive antibiotics because of the open wound and chest tube thats in. I hope this is over. I am really starting to come to the end myself. I want to tell everyone who I have neglected. Dean Carl. Bean SI, Elaine, Andrea, Katie B, Connie, David, Fay, Ginny D, Rich, Grumpy, OK Debi, melinda and geoff, curtis, snowflake, debi, Don wood, angie D/O/B, Ry, Sandy, EVERYONE else who I am forgetting, or just cant think to write their names THANK YOU. I am sorry I have not posted, I have been just consumed with my sister now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SandyS Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Wish I were close enough to give you a real hug! It all just gets to be too much. Hang tough kiddo - and let your sister know there are lots of people praying for a speedy and full recovery for her.... Hugs and prayers, SandyS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowflake Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Shelly, Take care of what is near and dear, we'll be here when you have time to come back. If you've noticed, many people wish to be able to hug others in person - you have that option with your sister. Take it! Rest assured, you are in the prayers of many. Much love, Becky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 We love you, Shelly, and we know you will be here when you can. So go take care of yours. I am glad everything went well today, even with the breakdowns. That pain, those antibiotics, that whole business is temporary. So all of the news from today is good. And don't worry about offending us. You can't. Curtis Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Shelly, your priority is in the right place, and you are a good caregiver to your sister. My prayers are with you both. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddy Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Bless You Shelly, for being at your sister's side all the time. Stay strong for just a little longer, I am sure everything will turn out alright for you both. Paddy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindy RN Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 (((Shelly)))))) YOU have been missed BUT I totally understand! You have been thru too much for anyone! As for the pain med!!!!! BULL!!!!!! She could of had some, I never in all my nursing - heard of NOT giving a pain med because they hadn't 'gone' yet!!! Sometime after surgery the bladder and the bowels slow done but that does not mean you can not have pain meds. Sorry this is such a sore subject for me! I have been in those shoes and if I want it I WILL GET IT!!!!!!!! You hold on and you and sis are in my prayers. Cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Shelly, You've been right where you are supposed to be. I hope your sister does well. Sorry to hear about the pain...hang in there. Thinking of you both. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathy Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Oh Shelly, I think you and your family have been through enough already, I hope this is the last hardship you have to face..You are in my thoughts always... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NellW Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Shelly, It's good that you are there the way you are for your sister. Sisters are a very precious commodity. Praying for both of you and for her pain to subside fast. Love Nell Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindi o'h Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Take care Shelly. I am so glad that you can be with your sister right now. God Bless Both of you. Cindi o'h Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nushka Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 With your sister is where you are suppose to be right now. We will take care of each other while you are away. I am glad there were no complications and I hope the pain issue is taken care of at this point. Shelly, you have been through so much and so has your sister. I hope things work out great for her and that she stays NED for the rest of her life. You are in my prayers as always. Nina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrea Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Shellie, I bet the nurses are used to people breaking down. After all we do it b/c we hate seeing our loved ones in pain!! I hope that your sister has a speedy easy recovery and you can move on from all of this to something much happier. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Addie Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Shel....we hope this is over for your sis, too. Sending her speedy healing vibes and every wish for a healthy future!! Keep us posted as you can...but be where you need to be....with Kate! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angie Daughter of Bill Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Dearest Shelly~~~ I am so glad that the surgery is over and done with. I have thought about you several times today. Hang in there. Much love! In my thoughts and prayers~~~ Angie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
randired Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 I am hoping for a speedy recovery for your sister. I hope the pain goes away soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kim Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 You take care of your sister and yourself! Prayers going out to you all!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melinda Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 my sisters surgery went ok. They were able to remove all of the breast tissue and placed an expander under her chest wall muscle. There were no complications during surgery. she will be in for a few days and is on massive antibiotics because of the open wound and chest tube thats in. Shellie-- Reading your post took me back a year ago when I first saw my mom after her dble. m. It is so hard--and scary--to see your loved ones this way. My heart goes out to you. I am just so thrilled that they were able to remove all the tissue and that there were no complications. Of course you are a mess--something would be wrong with you if you weren't! A person can only take so much. So, don't you dare beat yourself up on that count. Nor do you need to apologize to anyone here for not posting recently. You've been doing exactly what you're supposed to be doing--taking care of your sister and yourself (I still have not offcially returned my Statue of Liberty hallpass to Ry--so, I'm in the same boat.). Hang in there (on ALL fronts); try to give yourself a little TLC (even if it is only for 15 mins. a day--it's the only way I got through last year with my mom and my supervisor from h**l); and know that we are rooting for you and your sister. Melinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fay A. Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Don't you worry about me, Shellie. I'm pretty certain we all understand that you care for us. You just hang in there, Dear One. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Shelly, As the others have said, you are where you should be, giving your sister support. She is very lucky to have you. You are obviously a very strong person. My thoughts are with you both. Rachel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TeeTaa Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Keeping you and Kate close at heart with only the best of wishes. TeeTaa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaffie Posted October 14, 2004 Share Posted October 14, 2004 I don't know you well, but I agree with the rest, your sister needs you now. I would imagine her fears are beyond what I could even begin to imagine considering it's so recent since she's lost both of her parents to cancer. She's lucky to have you. Bless you both Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted October 14, 2004 Share Posted October 14, 2004 Shelly, Your sister is your priority now, we will be here to read the updates when you can post, prayers and wishes for a good recovery for your sister and the best for you. Hugs J.C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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