francesbean Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Hello everyone. I'm glad to have found this support community. The first few weeks after my dad's diagnosis were the hardest. I felt like a zombie, and I could not even eat at all. I've been reading up on LC news and updates and it's really disheartening because of the statistics and the dire prognosis. There are, however, a few bright spots that give me hope, survivors in this community included. My dad, at 58, is still fairly strong, but he stopped working after diagnosis and he pretty much stays at home the whole time. I'm seesawing between hopefulness and resignation. Mostly, resignation. I've been praying a lot though, and it helps. Just wanted to say hi and take care everyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doughnut Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Welcome to you Frances. If you feel despodent or resigned then this really is the place to be. You won't feel so isolated and will quickly learn that there are many many people here who are doing extremely well. They'll be along to welcome you shortly. Dee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna G Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Hi Frances, so glad you found us. Keep us posted how your Dad responds to chemo. Donna G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geri Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Hi Frances, welcome to the site. Please forget the statistics, they really don't tell the whole story. Most numbers are out of date by the time they are published, BUT the main reason to ignore them is that your dad may well help make up the numbers (whatever that may be) that survive! Stay with that thought please, I've survived for almost 4 years and the odds weren't good when I started this journey either. Take care Geri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Hi, Frances, and welcome here. My daughter's name is Frances also. Sorry about your dad, but hold onto the hope. Many survivors here. Let us know how we may support you and keep us posted on your dad's progress. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patkid Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Welcome!! Pat and Brian Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaffie Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Welcome frances, Do some reading of profiles here before you stay with that resignation, you will see some pretty amazing survival stories. Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ellakc2 Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Welcome, Good luck to your dad and yourself. Mare Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j ross Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Hello We felt as you do when Barry was first diagnosed. However we are still here and enjoying life. There is hope and things are improving re drugs, treatments etc. Best wishe Jennie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bbays Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Sorry to hear about your father. God bless, Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jang Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 Welcome Frances. Glad you found us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stand4hope Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 Hi Frances and WELCOME! There is a lot of hope with lung cancer - more than most people know. I wish every lung cancer patient and caregiver knew about this site so they could see how many survivors there are, and even how long some of the ones that have advanced disease survive. It gets better and better every day. It seems there is a continual flow of new drugs, new treatments and new technology. Stick with us and keep reading. You will have a lot of positive information to share with your dad. Welcome, and God bless you! Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don M Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 Welcome Frances: Let us know how your dad'd ct scan goes. I hope it shows good response. You and your dad have my prayers. Don M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nushka Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 Welcome Frances. I hope you continue to share with us your feelings and update us on your dad. Nina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
francesbean Posted July 22, 2005 Author Share Posted July 22, 2005 Thanks so much everyone! I'm reading everyone else's signatures and it's taking me a long time July 25 is drawing near.. *shudder* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunny Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 we'll be here, rooting for you, when the test day comes. sorry you have to be here, but welcome. xoxo amie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted July 23, 2005 Share Posted July 23, 2005 Welcome here, honey, I will be sending prayers out to your dad on Monday. I pray his scans show good progress. Keep us posted... and feel free at any time to come and vent. We are always here for you. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
francesbean Posted July 23, 2005 Author Share Posted July 23, 2005 I've been reading about your stories in the other topics too. I'm learning a lot. I've been dreading the day the doctor will declare metastasis. I hope it never happens. Stable is good, I can live with stable. Again, thanks so much everyone. It really sounds like I'm overreacting but I feel like crying again; there are so many people here fighting this battle, and although I'm thousands of miles away from most of you, I feel less alone in this. Take care everyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
richinsdakota Posted July 25, 2005 Share Posted July 25, 2005 Welcome Frances...keep reading the posts here, you can learn a lot and become less anxious about things...knowledge is less fear of the unknown. Good luck on ur Dads tests...Rich B. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leslie221 Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 Welcome and sorry about your dad. Things will begin to make more sense, be less strange, and less scary day by day. I was dx almost 7 months ago with stage IV (had already spread to bone) and I thought I was doomed at first. But, I've been fine all this time and I don't feel doomed anymore. I don't think it's just denial or wishful thinking either. I think there's scientific reason to feel optimistic. Sounds like your dad is in good shape otherwise and he'll be healthier just giving up the cigarettes! I really notice the difference. Sending caring thoughts, Leslie P.S. Are you a fan of Courtney Love or Nirvana? I ask because Kurt Cobain and Courtney Love's daughter is named Frances Bean. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
francesbean Posted July 26, 2005 Author Share Posted July 26, 2005 Leslie, Yes, it sort of amuses me he's been puttering with the water heaters and the fluorescent lights and such. My name is actually Frances Ellen but some online friends stared calling Bean, after Frances Bean Cobain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna G Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 Stable! great news! Donna G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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