michelepal Posted February 1, 2006 Share Posted February 1, 2006 Hi my name is Michele and I just lost my Father to Lung Cancer on 11/18/05 he was only 66 years old. My family and I are devastated! I want to send my deepest sympathy to everyone who lost a love one to this dreadful disease. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted February 1, 2006 Share Posted February 1, 2006 Thank you, Michele. Many of us here have lost special people lately, so your sympathy is much appreciated. Please know that I am exteding my sympathy back to you. Losing a Father is so very difficult. This is a comforting place to be for support you may need. Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fay A. Posted February 1, 2006 Share Posted February 1, 2006 Please accept my condolences on the loss of your Father. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann Posted February 1, 2006 Share Posted February 1, 2006 ((((((((((Michele)))))))))) So very you lost your father. You have my sympathy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nikkala Posted February 1, 2006 Share Posted February 1, 2006 So sorry for the loss of your father. I lost my mom at 41 so i know how very difficult this is. You take good care. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dadstimeon Posted February 1, 2006 Share Posted February 1, 2006 Very sorry for you loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MilliBr1 Posted February 1, 2006 Share Posted February 1, 2006 So sorry for your loss, I lost my mom in October so I understand how you must be feeling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted February 1, 2006 Share Posted February 1, 2006 Hi Michele, So sorry for the loss of your dad. I lost my mom 7 months ago so I know how you feel. You are right, you dad was so young to have his life snuffed out like that. This is a horrible monster. Please accept my condolences. We are always here for you if you want to vent or need support coping. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted February 2, 2006 Share Posted February 2, 2006 I am sorry you lost your dad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karen335 Posted February 2, 2006 Share Posted February 2, 2006 Michelle, Sending prayers for you and your family. Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jorja Posted February 2, 2006 Share Posted February 2, 2006 Michele, I am so sorry about your dad love, jorja Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted February 2, 2006 Share Posted February 2, 2006 So sorry for your loss... I lost my Daddy to this crappy disease also.... I know how hard it is.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaffie Posted February 2, 2006 Share Posted February 2, 2006 michelepal I'm so sorry for for the loss of your father. I lost my father to this awful stuff 6 years ago, I still get easily upset. Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trishnmiller Posted February 2, 2006 Share Posted February 2, 2006 I am so sorry. You are in the right place to share your enormous loss. The people here share your grief and pain over this devestating disease and the terrible toll it takes. Trish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted February 3, 2006 Share Posted February 3, 2006 Sorry for the loss of your father, my sympathy, Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted February 3, 2006 Share Posted February 3, 2006 Michele.. I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling, my heart goes out to you.. Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carleen Posted February 3, 2006 Share Posted February 3, 2006 Michele I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miami Janet Posted February 3, 2006 Share Posted February 3, 2006 Hi Michelle, So sorry on the loss of yur Dad. I lost my Mom on 11-17 and I know I am still in a lot of pain. Prayers for all of us on this board. Janet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunny Posted February 3, 2006 Share Posted February 3, 2006 Michele, I am sorry for your loss. do let us support you, if we can. xoxo amie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michelepal Posted February 12, 2006 Author Share Posted February 12, 2006 Hi Everyone, Thank you for all the support it really is helping me alot. But, it's been almost 3mts and the pain seems to getting worse. And the other problem is my poor Mother she breaks my heart, she is only 63 years old and all she keeps telling us is that her life is over. My sister & I try to be with her as much as possibe and we are always telling her how much we need her but nothing seems to help. Everytime we call her she's crying its sooo sad. Help!! Thanks Michele Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carolhg Posted February 12, 2006 Share Posted February 12, 2006 I am so very sorry for your loss of your father. I will be praying for you, your mother and your entire family. Prayers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miami Janet Posted February 12, 2006 Share Posted February 12, 2006 Hi Michele, My sympathy on the loss of your Dad... Janet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stand4hope Posted February 12, 2006 Share Posted February 12, 2006 Hello, Michele, I'm sorry to be late with a response to your post. I'm so sorry to hear that your dad is gone. I understand what you're going through. I lost my dad and my husband both within about a year of each other, and so, I thank you for your expressions of sympathy, too. God bless you, Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jduenges Posted February 13, 2006 Share Posted February 13, 2006 Michele, I am sorry about the loss of your Dad. I know it is so difficult. I lost my Dad in Sept'05. I just never imagined life without my Dad. Losing him was so bad, not to mention having to have him suffer through this terrible sickness. I also feel badly for my Mom. My Mom was born in Italy and she is very old fashioned. She doesn't drive, she doesn't go out with friends. When my Dad was alive and well she spent most days cooking, cleaning, and bargain hunting with my Dad. She really relies on my sisters and I to keep her busy. I feel so bad for her because she is alone and wants to keep busy but at the same time it is difficult because I am married and have two small children. My Mom enjoys spending time with my kids, coming over my house(or my sisters), having dinner at my house(I ask her to help me cook something or she will cook it herself). I think keeping her busy helps. Take care, Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carleen Posted February 13, 2006 Share Posted February 13, 2006 Michele, I am so very sorry for the pain you are feeling, and for your mother's deep grief. I know that people tell you that time will heal. But it has only been 3 months, and that is still too soon to expect that those wounds will be less raw. Plus, I think that to expect to go back to the way life used to be is never going to happen. You will love your father always, and there will always be that hole in your heart where he touched it. But you will learn to adjust and live a new normal. You can try and minimize that hole by realizing he is still with you, but as an angel in heaven watching over you and your children. I know that this will not seem like enough, especially when your heart and soul wants nothing more than to wrap your arms around him just one more time. You want to see his face and hear his voice. But you can see him in the signs around you, and see parts of him in his grandchildren. Understand that this pain you feel is normal, and you are entitled to feel terrible, to cry and to rage against this grief. Don't be hard on yourself, and listen to your body and your heart. Also remember this is normal for your mom. She has lost her love, her partner in life, her confidant, her best friend. She has such grief and such fear right now. In a way, her life as she knew it is over. It will never be the same again. Her daily activities are changed as she wakes up in an empty bed, goes through the motions of the day without the anticipation of coming home to a loving spouse, she cooks for one, she buys for one, and she goes to an empty bed; so much loneliness. Her plans she made for her future will not be, and she needs to start over from the beginning and make new plans alone. that is very scary. So, she grieves not only for the loss of her love, but also the loss of the life she had and thought she had ahead of her. But what you need to do for her is just understand when she cries and not avoid her for it, and be there for her to talk to, to cry to, and make her feel like she will never be fully alone no matter what and that you don't expect or want to push her into hiding her feelings or pretend she is feeling something she is not. Don't try to convince her that things will get back to normal, but help her understand that there will be a new normal. A life that is still filled with moments of joy and laughter. There is still beauty around her, and still lots for her to look forward to in life. She has you and your sister, and all her grandchildren who want her to share in their lives. These are just my thoughts, and I really do not have any experience with what you are going through. I have never lost anyone close to me, but these are my thoughts coming from the perspective of my fears and feelings as I ponder the possibility of losing my husband. I too have thought many times that if I were to lose him, I would have nothing to live for, my life would be over. So they are from a wife's point of view. I may be way off, and I don't mean to be presumptuous or offend you. Just my two cents. I will pray for you and your family, and hope that God eases your pain and brings you comfort and peace of mind. Carleen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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