lisag Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 My father passed away on 10-29-06, seven months to the day from his diagnosis with SCLC. He passed in the hospital, while holding my mothers hand. My brothers were there as well (I went home to shower, so I missed the moment but had spent the entire weekend with him). Without an autopsy, we'll never know for sure but have been led to beleive that he had a lung infection (probably not the cancer) that wasn't responding to treatment (probably due to all the cancer treatments). His scans from 9-11 days prior to his death came up clear. Dad was cremated, per his request. The wake was on 11-3, we're picking a cemetary plot 11-11 and hope to bury his remains on 11-18. Thru most of his battle, he was very active and doing well. In the last 2 weeks there was a swift decline and suddenly he was in pain. We opted for a morphine drip for the last 24 hours or so, to keep him free from pain. He passed in peace. He's with friends and family who have passed before him. I am sad, but I had seven extra months with him. Time to swap stories, time to laugh, time for him to teach me how to change the brakes on my car! I really believe each one of those days was a bonus for us. Please, please, please...spend time with your loved ones. If it's hard to look at them (bruises, oxygen tubes, etc...) suck it up and do it anyway. Make peace with your loved ones if you have to. Let them see you smile, let them know it's okay for them to let go when they have to. Love them. It is the knowledge that I did all these things that makes it okay. Peace- Lisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 I am sorry, Lisa. I agree, for me, each day I have is a bonus day for sure. I am glad you have many special memories and that your Dad wasn't suffering. Praying you have the courage to complete all the tasks laid before you. Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MsC1210 Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 Lisa I am so sorry about your loss. Your words are a beautiful and loving tribute to him and thank you for sharing this. Your reminder to spend time with loved ones is such a wonderful gesture, thank you so much. Sending my prayers and condolences to you and your family, Chris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheri Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 Oh Lisa, I'm so sorry for your great loss. It scares me how swift this disease can take a turn for the worse. My Dad and I just changed the brakes in my car yesterday. I hope your family finds peace in the days ahead. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 Lisa...I'm so very sorry for your loss. I know how hard this must be for you. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 Lisa, my heartfelt sympathies. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 Lisa, I'm so very sorry. It sounds like the caring you and the rest of the family provided was very special. God Bless, Nick Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 Lisa- I am so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 Lisa,I am very sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nikkala Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 I am soo sorry Lisa. Your words were very touching. You have my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sakell76 Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trish2418 Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 Please accept my condolences. May your dad restin peace. Trish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 Lisa, I am so sorry for the passing of your dad. But both made the best of the time he had left. That is PRICELESS!!! You have a great attitude and thank you for that great advice. I am so glad his was at peace and painfree when he passed. You were a wonderful daugher! Peace be with you, Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MEA Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 My deepest sympathy on the loss of your father. Peace be with you and your family. Mary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dchurchi Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 Lisa, sorry to learn of your father's passing. May peace be with you and your family. I count each and every day I have with my husband as a bounus day. I am glad you and your Dad had the time together you did. May he rest in peace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kreed70 Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 Lisa- so sorry to hear of your loss. praying for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Welthy Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 Lisa, I'm so very sorry for your loss. What a beautiful posting in honor of your Father. God bless you during this difficult time. Welthy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ma's kid Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 Heartfelt sympathies to you and your family. What you wrote is so true and you are very blessed and so was your dad. Hugs, Libby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michelepal Posted November 9, 2006 Share Posted November 9, 2006 Lisa, I'm so sorry! Michele Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thrashej Posted November 11, 2006 Share Posted November 11, 2006 Lisa, I am so sorry about the passing of your father. My father, too, died of SCLC only 6 months after diagnosis.You post is truly such a great tribute to your Dad. I made peace the way you did and like you am "OK" with it. I think it is a real testament to a person's character when they can see a loved one in such a horrible, distressing state and push through that grief and say what needs to be said. I was afraid of doing exactly that until one night the hospice RN said to me, "Honey, he knows he is dying". I was so scared to remind him of that. Everything in me wanted to curl up in a ball and cry. But I, like you, did what needed to be done. Thank God too, because my Dad will always know how I truly felt. Know that you are a wonderful daughter and your Dad is looking over you smiling. Smile back. Everyday. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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