Jackie UK Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 Hi! Thanks for your replies to my other thread Dad is now not eating at all and hasn't got long according to the doctors. He is still on a drip,but is now wearing an incontinence nappy as he is unable to go to the toilet by himself,he also has a catheter. I am in shock at the moment as the nurse who visited him a few days ago thought he still had a few months left. I am going to visit dad tomorrow as i am unable to leave my son with anyone as he is autistic son i have to wait for my hubby to finish his shift at work. I keep getting the shakes and my teeth keep chattering and i cant sit still. My poor mum is going backwards and forwards to the hospital and it really is taking its toll on her. Relatives have been told and mumis trying to keep everyone up to date. The docs say dad is less agitated when he has no visitors. I presume the no eating is a BIG sign that dad is near the end.Are there any other things that would let the docs know a timeline as to how long he might have? sorry for rambling on,i cant help myself. i'll keep you posted. thanks for being there Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patkid Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 Just many hugs, dear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nyka69 Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I know what a difficult time this is for you and your family. Following is a link that I found somewhat helpful. Not everyone experiences the same stages in the same order, but it made me feel a little better prepared for what was to come. http://www.hospicenet.org/html/preparing_for.html Wishes for peace for your dad, for you, and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 Saying prayers for you , your Dad and your family. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babyspicy Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 You are in our thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 Sending prayers for the family. Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leslie Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 Jackie-- My thoughts are with you and your family. Towards the end, my dad also seemed less agitated when he had fewer visitors (which was unusual for him since he really loved being around people...) If it's at all possible, I would try to find a way to start staying at the hospital. The fact that I was with my dad when he passed has been an enormous comfort to me over these past weeks. Finally, we found that at the very end we had to tell my dad that it was okay for him to go and to leave us. That we would be okay and that we loved him very much. You may find that you need to give your dad "permission" to leave. I wish you much strength during this difficult time. My best, Leslie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fillise Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 Jackie--I'm sending a prayer that your father finds peace and that you do as well. Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carolhg Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 My prayers for your father, you and your family. Carol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie UK Posted December 16, 2007 Author Share Posted December 16, 2007 I have just got back from visiting dad and the docs say he has pneumonia. He is on oxygen now and was very sleepy while i was there. He became agitated a few times and we had to hold his hands to calm him down. I am going back tomorrow and staying as long as i am needed. My mum is in denial that this is the end and is still convinced dad will get better. My brother and sister are the same. I was very upset when i saw him but after the initial shock i was able to sit with him and hold his hand. I kept telling him i love him and kissing his forehead. now we have to wait and see what happens. Thanks for your support.Believe me it really does help. Thanks Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 Jackie, Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Love, Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 Jackie, Just want to let you know that my prayers continue. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brandyswa Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 Jackie, You and your family is in our prayers. We will be praying that the pneumonia will hurry up and move out. Keep us updated. Hugs to you, Brandy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teriw Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 Jackie, No great words of wisdom, except to do what you're already doing -- letting him know you love him and making him comfortable. Hugs, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bev'sSister Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 Jackie, I will be praying for your Dad and his family during this difficult time. I hope you have a peaceful Christmas. Love, Bobby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fillise Posted December 18, 2007 Share Posted December 18, 2007 Jackie--it sounds like you are providing exactly what your father needs now. I will continue to pray that he is peaceful, and that you have continue to have the strength to help him through this. Much love, Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VegasMomOf3 Posted December 19, 2007 Share Posted December 19, 2007 Jackie, Thoughts and prayers of comfort for you and the family. Hugs, Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don M Posted December 19, 2007 Share Posted December 19, 2007 Jackie, I hope your dad will continue to e comfortable. Don M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carolyn Cruickshanks Posted December 19, 2007 Share Posted December 19, 2007 God Bless you and your family. Be strong by knowing that you are sent much love from all of us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dtay Posted December 20, 2007 Share Posted December 20, 2007 Thinking of you, Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie UK Posted December 22, 2007 Author Share Posted December 22, 2007 My dad passed away on Thursday 20th December at 12.10pm. I was with him and so was mum and my cousin Nikki. Thanks for all your replies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MsC1210 Posted December 22, 2007 Share Posted December 22, 2007 Jackie I am so very sorry to read this. Please accept my sincere sympathies on your loss Christine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted December 22, 2007 Share Posted December 22, 2007 Jackie, I am so very sorry for your loss. My sincere condolences to you and your family. God Bless, Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dtay Posted December 22, 2007 Share Posted December 22, 2007 Jackie Was saddnened to read your post - I have been thinking about your Dad. God bless you and your family at this time. Best wishes Dawn x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelley (MLC) Posted December 23, 2007 Share Posted December 23, 2007 Jackie, I am so very sorry for your loss. I wish there was something I could do to ease your pain. My prayers go out to you and your family. Shelley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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