Kristi Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 I got a call from Mom last Wednesday night around 8:30 pm saying that Dad's lung had hemorrhaged and was on his way to the hospital. She sounded so calm so but when I asked her how serious that way she said "serious" and her voice cracked a tiny bit. I knew in my gut right then he wouldn't make it. She asked me to call my sisters and tell them to get to the hospital ASAP. Of course I was here in Texas and couldn't make it. Around 10:30 I got the call from my sister that he was gone. He had been on the front porch getting ready to smoke his pipe (had it loaded and everything) when Mom said he yelled at her to bring him a paper towel so she grabbed one but when she saw how much blood was coming out of his mouth she grabbed the whole roll. He headed into the house and collasped just a few steps in. Mom called 911 and my brother who was just a few minutes away. They live in the country so it took an eternity to get there but my brother did CPR on him until they got there. Bless my brother's heart to have to go through that. Mom said it was just terrible but I truly believe that he passed from their arms right into heaven and didn't suffer. Mom said the loss of blood made him unconscious almost immediately. My brother rode to the hospital with him. They were all there and able to see him after everything and said he was just so peaceful and looked so relieved. My sisters stayed with Dad until around 2:00 am when the funeral home picked him up. Me, my husband and the kids drove up the next morning to make funeral arrangements. How awful to bury a parent. There is truly nothing like it. I am just heartbroken over this. He was doing so well. His hair had started to grow back after the chemo and he was so proud of that. I think I'm still in shock. The funeral was just amazing. We put together a slideshow of pictures of him throughout his life. It was beautiful!! My sisters and I each wrote a tribute to Dad and read it at the funeral. We were just all bawling our heads off but we got through it by the grace of God. Hardest thing I've ever had to do! We buried him in the old cemetary down by the river where he used to fish and took my boys fishing. He always told us he wanted to be buried so that's where he is. We drove back home Tuesday and it was just so hard to leave. Mom is doing okay, so sad but will make it. They would have been married 50 years in January. Bless her heart!! Please pray for my family to get through this. It's just so hard. Finally, thank you to those of you here that replied to me so many times when I was worried about Dad. I'll never forget your honesty and compassion. I'll try to check in from time to time to see how you and your loved ones are doing. Take care! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carleen Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 Oh Kristi, I am so very sorry. It sounds like your family gave him a beautiful tribute and that he truly now is at peace and comforted. I know how hard it is to go through this. I same saying prayers for you, your mom and whole family that God grant you comfort during this difficult times. Come back if you need to talk, vent, remember and grieve. I found that after losing my husband, one of the things that helped me the most was coming online and sharing with others all the things that made him wonderful, all the funny memories and reasons he was special. It helped me feel like him and his memory was living on. There are many of us here who not only come to support those living with, and surviving cancer, but those of us who need the friendship and support after losing the ones we love to cancer. Please come back and post and tell us more about your wonderful dad. God Bless you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fillise Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 Kristi, I'm so very sorry. I hope you take some comfort from the fact that your father was peacful at the end and didn't suffer. Please know that we will continue to be here for you. Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 My thoughts Prayers and Condolences.. and yes we are a great Grief support group here!!! If Ya need us let us know. I can not imagine losing a parent. I am glad your dad was at peace and is in a wonderful resting place! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flyman35 Posted September 25, 2009 Share Posted September 25, 2009 I am so sorry to read this Kristi. You and your family are in my prayers. Peace and comfort to you. Denise Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb73 Posted September 25, 2009 Share Posted September 25, 2009 Kristi, Your Dad had his loving family around him, with his son giving him CPR. Please know that you have our deep sympathy and offer our condolences to you and your family. Years ago, when my husband Bill was just in his twenties, he received a call that his Dad had collapsed at early Mass on New Year's Day. It was his heart. Bill ran over there on foot, and gave his father mouth-to-mouth. His father's blue eyes told Bill that he was gone. As with your Dad, his passing was painless. Bill has never forgotten that moment in all of these years. Please come back, and tell us how you are all doing. Barbara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jaminkw Posted September 25, 2009 Share Posted September 25, 2009 Kristi, your father's struggle with the demon cancer is over. For you and your family, the process of grieving has just begun. Wishing you all, most especially your mom, strength for the days ahead. Judy in Key West Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
millie's girl Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for strength Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bud Baker Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 So sorry to read this, Kristi. Condolences to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barbvh Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 Kristi, I am so sorry to hear of your father's passing. May the prayers of many bring you and your family peace and comfort in the days ahead. Fondly, BarbVH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 Kristi, I am so sorry for you and your family. We'll be here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marci Posted September 28, 2009 Share Posted September 28, 2009 Kristi, So sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers. Marci Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barbb Posted September 29, 2009 Share Posted September 29, 2009 Kristi, I'm so sorry to read your father has passed, bless your mom and brother for what they did for him in his last minutes. I pray your family will find peace in knowing he is in the arms of Jesus. Barbb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carolhg Posted September 29, 2009 Share Posted September 29, 2009 I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Carol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fighting4mom Posted September 30, 2009 Share Posted September 30, 2009 Dear Kristi, I am wishing you strength and hugs as you work through this most difficult time. May happy memories and the warmth of your Father's spirit be with you and your family. Blessings to you, Kimberly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MalouDP Posted October 6, 2009 Share Posted October 6, 2009 Hi Kristi: I am praying for you and your family. May God almighty give you strength and replace your grief with the Joy of the Lord ! God Bless Malou Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kristi Posted November 6, 2009 Author Share Posted November 6, 2009 Thank you for all the sweet replies. It's been 7 weeks since Dad passed away and it's still so painful. We're walking in Dallas tomorrow for the Lungevity Walk. I'm really looking forward to it. I hope you're all doing well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted November 6, 2009 Share Posted November 6, 2009 I'm so sorry, Kristi. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted November 6, 2009 Share Posted November 6, 2009 Get a hug from Katie and everything will be great tomorrow!! Hang in there!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myagle2 Posted November 6, 2009 Share Posted November 6, 2009 Iam so sorry for your loss, and all I can say is I understand. Keep posting. Mary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fillise Posted November 6, 2009 Share Posted November 6, 2009 kristi, I know your dad would be proud of you for walking tomorrow. Shed some tears and some laughs as you remember him and take comfort in knowing that you are honoring his memory. Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kukla Posted November 22, 2009 Share Posted November 22, 2009 Kristi - I am so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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