Guest KellyB Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 Hello to all...I have been gone for a while. It was a very difficult time and my family was in such sadness, I never had a moment to type with all that was happening. My Dad had a very quick decline. He actually passed way on May 22. I am thankful he did not suffer long. He had recently seen his oncologist and pulmonologist and neither predicted his upcoming demise. I sadly watched as his zest for life disappeared and my 2 sisters and I stayed and helped my dear mother take care of him. The last week he no longer ate or took medicine. The Iressa had really taken it's toll , the side effects were horrible. He went from the o2 to the bipap back to the o2. I prayed for God to take him for the suffering and struggle were too much to bear. I used to read all the stories of the other loved ones who passed and never thought I could face the concept. However, life must go on and although I miss him every minute, I hated seeing the struggle for every breath. On Friday May 21st after a very declining week my father waited for my brother to arrive from PA at midnight, we sang songs, prayed and relived our fondest memories holding hands and crying until about 3am, we lit candles, a priest came to visit at 1:45am and we sat peacefully watching him. The wonderful Hospice nurse came in and dispensed some meds to help him relax... we shut the lights and he passed peacefully in his sleep at 3:30am. ALthough still dark , we heard birds singing like crazy outside the window. I wake up and still cannot believe he is gone. My 3 girls are really doing ok(better than me!) and even though they miss Grandpa, thay are what keeps me going. I was so worried about them, he has babysat for 9 years! My father's funeral was so beautiful. We filled two rooms with pictures and memories, each of my siblings and myself spoke and we had a big party at my house afterwards. My father requested a celebration of life with good food, drink,music and happiness until sunset, that is what we did. This site helped us along the journey and I pray for a cure to this dreadful disease. I will post a tribute to my Dad asap I wish all well. with regards.... Kelly B. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna G Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 Kelly I am so sorry. May you and your family find peace. Know your father watches over you and loves you. Donna G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 I am so sorry Kelly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stand4hope Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 Kelly, Please accept my sincere sympathy. I am so sorry for your loss. God bless you, Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhutch1366 Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 Kelly, I am sorry for your loss. XOXOXOX Prayers for you and your family... MaryAnn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pecola Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 {{{{{Kelly}}}}} I'm so very very sorry. Your description of your families final hours with your Dad was truly touching and brought me to tears. My prayers and love, Gina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haylee_38 Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 Kelly, I am so sorry my thoughts are with you & family. Haylee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TeeTaa Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 I'm so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful family you have, and I'm sure your father is so very proud. TeeTaa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remembering Dave Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 Kelly, I am so sorry for you to have lost your wonderful dear father. But I think he had a life well worth living which is evidenced by the devotion of his family. You are lucky to have such precious memories for your lifetime. God Bless, Karen C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Addie Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 Kelly, I wasn't yet a member when you went missing due to your father's decline....but please accept my sincere sympathies on such a difficult loss. The tribute and celebration of your dad's life sounds as though it was meaningful for your family and I'm sure your dad was there, watching it all approvingly. I hope that time and all the wonderful memories you have will bring comfort. Again...I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 Kelly, My depest sympathy for your loss, Peace for you and all your family. J.C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Margaret Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 You and your family made wonderful memories right to the last...may God and your memories sustain you all. Peace to you, Margaret Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gerbil runner Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 Kelly, I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
betplace Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 Please accept my sincerest condolances on the loss of your beloved Daddy! Blessings Betty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathy Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 I am so sorry Kelly. It sounds as though you have a beautiful family and together you will find some peace and begin to heal... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David A Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 Kelly,please accept my condolences Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remembering Dave Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Your dad was a very lucky man to have you for a daughter and to get to spend so much time with his grandchildren. David C Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dadstimeon Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 Kelly, Please accept my condolences on the passing of your father. Rich Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 The care your Dad received is a living tribute to him. He must be so proud of all you did for him after his passing, and while he was with you. He left this world surrounded by love and with such dignity. Please accept my sincerest sympathy. Nancy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ven Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 Kelly, I too add my condolences. Sounds like you did everything the way he would have wanted it, so that's great. I hope you find comfort in the happier memories. Best Regards, Vennie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shirleyb Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 Kelli, I am so sorry to read about your father. I know the sadness you must have. May God give you comfort at this time. May your wonderful loving father soar with the eagles!!! Much love and warm hugs dear one. Shirleyb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elnodel Posted June 11, 2004 Share Posted June 11, 2004 Kelly, I too joined after you left, but I wanted to add my condolences to those of others. Your family sounds as if they did it the right way and I'm sure your dad would have loved the way you "saw him out". Keep on living in that spirit and he won't be forgotten. Ellen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
natalie Posted June 11, 2004 Share Posted June 11, 2004 Kelly, I'm so sorry...I'm here for you if you ever need to vent, get angry, or talk about wonderful memories of your father. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrea B. Posted June 11, 2004 Share Posted June 11, 2004 Dear Kelly, I am so so sorry for the loss of your beloved father. Sounds like the memorial service was a wonderful tribute to a loving and devoted man. I know what is like to feel a huge void, so I am wishing you some peace and comfort during this difficult time. Hugs and blessings, Andrea B. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SandyS Posted June 11, 2004 Share Posted June 11, 2004 Kelly - How very sad, and beautiful at the same time. So sorry for your loss, Hugs and prayers, SandyS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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