Christina, it is hard to know where to start on this one. First, cancer does crazy things to the patient and to the caregiver, even under the best of circumstances. My wife is demanding on me because she feels safe with me, but she's a lot nicer about it than your husband. Yep, you married for the wrong reason, and, in a way, he may resent that fact, and that adds to the lashing out. I agree that you should set him straight that he has to treat you decently, cancer or no cancer, or he is on his own. I have said before that we teach people how to treat us, and if we allow crap from someone, crap is what we get. As has been stated above, you must take care of yourself metnally, physically, emotionally, or you will be no good to take care of him or anyone else. My prayers are with you. Don