kamataca Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 Mom's visit to the Dr. on Friday was a bit disappointing. Her primary tumor is growing, another one has appeared in her lower left lobe. The Dr is concerned about letting this go unchecked. After saying previously that Mom shouldn't do chemo (b/c of her other med. complications), the dr. is now recommending a couple of rounds of Carboplatin and Gemzar. Previously the Tarceva was Mom's only option, and up until now it has held the tumors in check. Mom is worried about the whole quality of life scenario. I know that the chemo will be rough on her, but I hope she will choose to try it. She is so young (just 65), and we aren't done with her yet. I know it has to be her decision, and I do respect that. Mom's spirits are lagging right now. My brothers and I took her out to dinner Friday night, and we had a hoot. My goal right now is to keep things light for her, support her, and let her do what she wants. Please snd out the good vibes her way. Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MilliBr1 Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 Kelly, my heart goes out to all of you especially your mom. I know this is a hard and difficult decision. I will be praying that she makes the right one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patkid Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 Lots of prayers, honey, and lots of hugs for your mom and your family. This is just such a daunting battle. Love Pat and Bri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pammie Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 Sorry the news isn't good. It is touch to know what the right choice is on treatments. Will be praying for your mom. pammie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
slinaresholz Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 Kelly, Best wishes for your Mom and best of luck no matter what she chooses to do. Prayers and hugs! Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leslie221 Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 Kelly, Well, that news is definitely a bummer, isn't it? But this chemo combo may be just the thing to beat the cancer back! Hope your mom will be one of the people who has a milder-than-expected chemo experience. She's a brave lady and a lucky one to have such great, suportive kids to get her through this with smiles and lots of love. Leslie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 You're loving her so well. I'm sorry you got this news. I hope for hope for all of you and that the doctor's plans get things headed in a great direction. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 Hi Kelly, So sorry for this setback. This is so sad for everyone involved. Your are right, it is your moms decision and you have to respect what she decides. But I hope she will try the chemo as it just may work for her. You don't know until you try it. Praying for all of you. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marym Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 I'm on thesame drugs offered to your mother. I can say that my treatments had no ill effects, except a little nausea on the 2nd or 3rd day - which was controlled easily with a pill. I've only had 3 treatments over the last 8 weeks, but I've felt fine, lost no weight and lost no hair. I have had a problem with low blood counts that have postponed treatment twice. They told me not to worry about it. Tell your mother that if her concern is quality of life, the chemi won't adversely affect that. Best wishes. Mary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ma's kid Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 I will keep your mom in my prayers, Kelly. Damn this awful disease! We just had a discussion about quality of life with my mom, as her chemo is winding down..I know how you feel when you say you will respect her decision but it's so so difficult for so many reasons. Gentle hugs and I pray that the new round of treatment will keep things on an even keel. Libby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darci Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 Kelly, I am so sorry that your mom received such disappointing news. She is so lucky to have such a wonderful family, and I know that with all your love and support she will make the best decision! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunny Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 you sound like a great, loving support for her. I'm sorry the news wasn't better, but I find the above descriptions of not-so-bad chemo heartening. I'll keep both of you in my thoughts and prayers. have as many hoots as possible, it can only help. xoxo bunny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hopeandstrength Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 I will also keep you all in my thoughts...you are a great daughter! Cathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melindasue37 Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 Kelly, Oh no...I'm sorry to hear the news about your Mom. I sure hope she decides to try the new chemo. I'll keep my fingers crossed and say a prayer for you. PS.... I sure know what you mean about not being "done" with her yet. With your support she's bound to be feeling much better soon. Melinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don M Posted September 22, 2005 Share Posted September 22, 2005 Kelly: your mom has my prayers. For what it's worth, I had 4 rounds of gemzar/carboplatin and tolerated it very well. I am 61. The oncologist told me that gemzar is less likely to cause neuropathy than taxol. Don M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindi o'h Posted September 22, 2005 Share Posted September 22, 2005 Hi Kelly. Your Mom is in my prayers for getting through this in good spirits and making decisions with a clear head. Cindi o'h Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carolhg Posted September 23, 2005 Share Posted September 23, 2005 My prayers are with you and your mother. I pray that all works out well. Carol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LynneH Posted September 23, 2005 Share Posted September 23, 2005 Hi Kelly, You are a wonderful daughter. It's so important, but so hard, to step back and let her decide what she wants to do. (Of course, gentle nudging is always allowed if she asks for guidance!) Although Jim's cancer was different than your Mom's, he felt remarkably well during his first 6 months of chemo and had a huge amount of tumor shrinkage. He continued to exercise and didn’t lose any weight. He did go through spells of fatigue but he said it was very manageable. One thing we did talk about was that it was always ultimately his decision about pursuing treatment, and he could always stop it at any time. (But then I would remind him that I would cry and throw a tantrum in the middle of the floor but that he shouldn't be influenced by my behavior.) Hopefully your Mom will decide to give it a try. Either way, she sounds very lucky to have you as her daughter. Take care, Lynne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jyoung20 Posted September 23, 2005 Share Posted September 23, 2005 I'm so sorry for everything ya'll are going through now. You will be in my prayers. Jamie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jorja Posted September 23, 2005 Share Posted September 23, 2005 Hi Kelly, I hope the new treatment works for your mom. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and pray for some good results. Just know that you are not alone. love, jorja Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SBeth Posted September 23, 2005 Share Posted September 23, 2005 Kelly, All my prayers are going out for you, your mom and your family. I admire your spirit and you plan to keep things light and enjoy life; while respecting her wishes. It's not easy...this I know! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jang Posted September 23, 2005 Share Posted September 23, 2005 Kelly - prayers going out for your Mom. Hang in there... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaffie Posted September 24, 2005 Share Posted September 24, 2005 Kelly Thinking of you and your mother, prayng all goes well with the new treatment. Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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