hopeandstrength Posted February 25, 2006 Share Posted February 25, 2006 My dear, sweet father died last Wednesday night at home. Long story, short. He was diagnosed with two brain mets on Dec. 22nd last year. He had undergone 10 rounds of WBR and was doing okay with everything, but very tired. The lung cancer was stable as of the last appointment in Dec. The last couple of weeks he was so tired and not eating well, but we felt pretty good at the last oncology appointment. The doctor felt that he could still be tired due to just being a month out from radiation. That night, my dad was apparently reaching for a snack in the kitchen and had a stroke and fell. Combined with the stroke and blow to his head from the fall, he had a significant bleed in his brain. We worked hard to get him into hospice and home by Sunday afternoon. My mother and I cared for him from Sunday, until he died on Wednesday night with my mom at his side. It was very peaceful and I feel honored that I was able to care for him. The hospice was terrible, but since I'm a nurse, I just dealt with it. I feel that they took advantage of the fact that I am a nurse and didn't do much to help. My father didn't know any different, as he was unresponsive pretty much from the time he came home, but if I thought he was going to be with us much longer, I would have changed to a different hospice. Anyway...thanks for letting me share. I have been having a difficult time since the brain mets and just didn't have the energy to post any bad news here. We have lost so many wonderful people lately. It breaks my heart. I miss my wonderful dad so much. He truly was the kindest and nicest person you could ever know. Cathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hopeandstrength Posted February 25, 2006 Author Share Posted February 25, 2006 Oh, by the way. My dad died on my parent's wedding anniversary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MarkG Posted February 25, 2006 Share Posted February 25, 2006 Hi, I am feeling your loss, so very much . Everyday will bring the sense of loss. I know, it's only been a little over a month since Leslie passed. Nothing can deminish the pain but time. And I'll admit, time passes way to slowly with this sense of loss. I am here with you. We can talk through it together if you like. Stay focused in each moment. That's the only way I can cope. Not easy. My heart goes out to you, Mark (Leslie 221 husband) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michelepal Posted February 25, 2006 Share Posted February 25, 2006 I am so sorry for you loss! I lost my Dad on 11-18-05 and the pain is still in my face every second of every day. I guess time will help (that's what everyone keeps telling me)but I know I will never be the same again. I know this loss made me stronger I'm not sure if thats good or bad. Take care of yourself and your Mom. ((())) Michele Dad dx 04-02-05 Passed away 11-18-05 only 66 years old Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jorja Posted February 25, 2006 Share Posted February 25, 2006 I am so sorry love, jorja Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gail p-m Posted February 25, 2006 Share Posted February 25, 2006 So very sorry for your loss. gail p-m Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pammie Posted February 25, 2006 Share Posted February 25, 2006 Cathy, very sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. Will be praying for you and your mom. pammie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gail Posted February 25, 2006 Share Posted February 25, 2006 I am sorry for the loss of your dad. Prayers to you and your mom gail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatieB Posted February 25, 2006 Share Posted February 25, 2006 I'm so terribly sorry. Please accept my condolences. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patkid Posted February 25, 2006 Share Posted February 25, 2006 I am so sad and so sorry. Blessings, Pat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dadstimeon Posted February 25, 2006 Share Posted February 25, 2006 I'm very sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geri Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 So sorry Geri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 I am so sorry .... Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 My heartfelt sympathies at the loss of your dad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miami Janet Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 Cathy, Condolences on the loss of your Dad...Hoping you find some peace in the days to come. Janet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 Cathy,I am very sorry for the loss of your dad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don M Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 Cathy: please accept my condolences for the loss of your father. Don M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MilliBr1 Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 I am so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MEA Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 Cathy, Offering my condolences at the loss of your father. Mary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carleen Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 Cathy I am so very sorry for you loss. Please know that I am praying for you and your family. I pray you find some peace and comfort in the days ahead. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 So sorry for the loss of your dad. Losing a parent is really tough. You were a great daughter as you were by his side. What more could he have asked for. My deepest condolences goes out to you and your family. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eppie Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 ((((((((((((((Cathy)))))))))))) Please know you and your sweet family are in my prayers. I am so very sorry about your loss. I hope you take comfort in knowing that you were 100% there for your folks. I am sure they appreciated and need all your help and advocacy. Much lover and healing to you and the ones you love, Eppie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jdjenkins Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 My heart breaks for you and your family. I know how hard it is to lose a very special Dad. Mine passed away 1-06-06, and I miss him so very much. God bless you and keep you strong. Denise Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nancy B Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 Cathy, I am so sorry for the loss of your Dad. I am praying for peace and comfort for you and your Mom. Hugs, Nancy B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrea B. Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved father. I know the pain and my heart goes out to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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