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Hi all.

well my journey in Hell continues. Dad is not well at all. He has not eaten now since Saturday night and I am not sure what exactly is wrong.

the oncologist wants him in today at 2 pm (NY time) for what I don't know. I have a horrible feeling in my stomach though now from anxiety.

After the hand accident on saturday morning it seems he has gone down hill rapidly. He is in allot of pain in his back and side around where the chest tube went in. Normally I would arrtibute that to the nerves being cut but it seems more than that now. He is very pale and tired and the pain is what I am scared of.

He goes in for a PET scan on the 25th and I suppose will hear the results at the next appt with the onc. on 6/1.

The last chemo he took was carboplatin/vp-16 and last week he told me he called the dr. and they told him that chemo still could be causing the pain. It just seems to be going on for a long time to me though.

I guess I am terrified that the cancer is moving and spreading like wildfire and I am going to end up burrying another parent this summer like last summer.

I hope the oncologist says something that helps with this panaroia.

prayers please.

Update Friday Morn: dad is severely dehydrated, has lost 13 pounds in 10 days, his potassium level is dropping and they think he had brain mets now. The are going to PET scan him Tuesday unless they can get him in before and go from there. Its happening again, I see him going the same way mom did. I recogonize the symptoms and I am trying to prepare myself but nothing is working. I can't stop crying and I am loosing my sanity. I just tears me apart inside that he is suffering and I CANT do anything about it. I feel like I am dying with him.

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Oh Shelly,

I am so sorry that you are enduring all of this. It is certainly PAST TIME for the big guy upstairs to cut you a break! I know that God only gives us what we can handle, but I think you have reached that point! I pray that the oncologist has some uplifting news and that you receive some much needed peace of mind.

(((((HUGS))))))))

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Shelly,

Prayers you have.

I suspect your Dad is a bit more upset with something he can see, especially that bleeds....

He does sound demoralized.

That accident might have done what all the scans and reports couldn't do.

Your dad might need more support now to keep him going forward...

I will pray for your dad, and for you, as you don't need more grief on your plate.

Hang in there.

XOXXOXOX

Prayers, always.

MaryAnn

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Hello Shelly -- Deep breathes and gratitudes [lots of them!~] for the wonderful moments, the talks, the conversations, the laughter and sharing that we have: me and my husband who is also very ill with SCLC, and you with your dad. My prayers for you Shelly and for your dad that the pain will be lifted, even if just enough to see the light through that nasty dark and drearyness of pain..... And then even more to make him smile again~

[[[[[[[shelly]]]]]]]]]

big Hugs to you -

Beth

===============

Husband diag. 12/3 w/extensive SCLC

carbo/taxol, then neuropathy,

then low blood counts/lower still hemoglobin

switched to CPT-11, possible brain 'lesion'

MRI scheduled for Monday

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Shelly, you are always in my thought as usual. I keep your dad in my prayers and I pray that he will get well very soon (fingers), and I pray that your dad has a good spirit of fighting.

I just thought, your dad must be upset with your mom's passing and he may be just negatively handling his own disease. Anyway, keep him in good fighting spirit and tell him he has you and fight for you.

Prayers sending now.

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Shelly,

As of today, I now have had a total of four big family bombshells laid on me. After the new one today, my sister asked me if I knew anyone else that was going through as much as I am right now. I said, "Well, not personally, but all I have to do is log onto this website, and there's a whole bunch of friends that are going through a lot more than me."

Shelly, you are one of them, along with Fay, and some others whose names I can't think of right now. It just seems like you and some of the others just keep getting hit and hit again. I like what Heather said in her post. I'm asking God tonight to please do something to stop this bombardment and intervene just like He did for Job. If this keeps up, I just bet you are going to earn yourself a seat at the dinner table with Job himself. If anyone reading this hasn't read the story of Job, it is an OUTSTANDING Bible story and will really hold your interst from beginning to end, especially in one of the easier-to-understand Bibles, i.e., Living Bible, etc.

Shelly - - just knock the crap out of that puny little devil that is trying to pull you down!! :evil: SMACK HIM! KICK HIM! SLAP HIM! BELT HIM! and KNOCK HIM ON HIS A**!

God loves you :D:D:D:D:D

Peggy

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Oh Shellie,

Seems like we've "known" each other forever- huh? Wish I were closer then I could worry with you and you'd have another shoulder to lean on.

I'm saying some real big prayers for you and your dad ok.

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Guest bean_si (Not Active)

Shelly, So many things can account for his increased pain including anxiety or stress or depression. It might not be physical or it could be physical but stress or internalized anxiety is causing him to be more aware of the pain.

I'll ask the Healing Buddha to watch over him. I'll ask an angel to stay close to him - close to both of you. You both need a guardian angel right now.

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Guest Phyllis

I will also be pulling for you. I agree with the rest. You are too young to be dealing with all of this and definitely deserve a break. Take care of yourself through all of this.

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Shelly,

My heart goes out to you. I can only imagine how difficult it is to watch someone you love go through such pain and suffering - be it mental, emotional or physical pain.

I will certainly remember your Dad and YOU in my prayers - strength for you and healing for your Dad.

God Bless!

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Shelly,

Hang on tight. You CAN do this. Tell you what - let's do it together. My dad is struggling for life right now, too. He had a bad evening and I told them to go ahead and start morphine tonight. I'll hold you up and you can hold me up. Ok? We got a deal? You be strong for me and I'll be strong for you. You, me and all nearly 1100 people on this website, can do anything if we just stick together and support each other.

Look up and know that He loves you and BREATHE!!!

Love,

Peggy

P.S. PM me anytime!

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Dear Shellie,

So very sorry to hear that you are going through such a terrible time. Are you all on you own, physically I mean, (as you know you are not alone spiritually with all us folks on the board who keep you in our prayers and thoughts?!) I wish I knew there was someone, a close friend or relative who can help you through this, it is such an awful burden to bear on your own.

Love Paddy

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Nothing I can say will make this better for you. And that's all I want to do is make this better!! ((((((((SHELLY))))))))

I'm here for you if you need an ear or a friend. I know where your at and what your going through. I lost my mom and sister 8 months apart from one another. I'm PRAYING for you Shelly and for your dad.

Much Love, Hugs, and Support,

Connie

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Dear Shelley,

What a terrible time you are going through... I wish there was something I could do to "fix it" and make it all better for you. Please know you are in my prayers and thoughts and of course your dad too. Keep us posted with the latest scan results. I am praying for some hopeful news. Love, Sharon

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