IIIp0 Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Hello Everyone - Just Monday morning we visited our onc one last time; and after taking blood [and platelets were like, nil]; the doctor determined it would be best [at this time] for Bob to get with Hospice. His blood after a month and some weeks now, is just so so poor, he would never sustain another transfusion. So by Monday afternoon, Hospice was called in. The concensus from Hospice [and from our onc], is pretty grim. Combined with Bob's blood problems, he has ascites pretty severely, his liver is swolen and breathing already compromised -- the concensus is he could have "a few weeks or month(s)".... I'm sure we'll know more come the weekend. We're still praying for miracles, and I've asked that his blood be drawn this next week or so [just to see whether or not there's been a change that would allow us SOME treatment other than Hospice.]. The flip side I've been told, is that when conditions have progressed this far down the road, even if transfusions could be done, they could still be life threatening and not sustain an already deteriiorated physical state. Hey -- I'm only the messenger. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
betplace Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 OH (((Beth))) I am so sorry sweetie! I hate this disease!! I am praying hard for your miracle dear! Blessings Betty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shirleyb Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Beth, I am so sorry your battle has taken this turn. Miracles do happen. Sometimes we just don't see them for what they are. How is your daughter handling this? I know how hard it is for the kids. You are all in my prayers. Shirleyb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Beth, this is so sad. I will pray very hard that your husband gets stronger and can continue with treatments. As the caregiver you feel so frustrated that you can't do something, anything to make your husband better. Take care of yourself, he needs you healthy. Take care, I will keep you in my thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stand4hope Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Oh, Beth, I am so very sorry. You must be feeling very discouraged and sad right now. He can still receive a miracle - it really does happen. Don't give up. I don't have much time this morning because I've got to get ready for work, but I'll write you a PM at lunchtime or tonight. We haven't talked for a while. Love and hugs, Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Oh Beth, I am so sorry to hear this. I hope Bob still isn't working. He needs to rest and build some strength. Is your daughter home with you yet? This is so sad, but as others have said, miracle so happen. love elaine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Addie Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 I'll pray for that miracle for you, Beth. I can imagine how hard this must be for you and wish there was more we could do to help or support you. Stay strong and don't give up hope! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna G Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Beth prayers going up. Donna G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhutch1366 Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Beth, Sorry to hear, Prayers for healing and strength for you all.... (((((((((((((((((Beth)))))))))))))) XOXOXOXOXOXOX Prayers always, MaryAnn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrea Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Beth, This is so unfair. I wish you nothing but peace and love. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheresaKB Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Beth, I am so sorry for this downturn. I will be praying for a miracle for your husband. Hugs. Theresa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Beth, Know that our prayers are with you also. sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Beth, prayers for you both. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Beth,So sorry to hear this.We will pray for that miracle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laberl Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Beth, I'm so very sorry. Praying for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Praying for a miracle for you and him, but for now, wishing you peace and love, lots of good times together. Margaret Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest bean_si (Not Active) Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Beth, Prayers for you and your husband. Miracles do happen. I wish one for him. Cat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
osirus226 Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Beth, I am sorry to hear about your husbands condition. I too, will be praying for you and your husband. Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fall54 Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 Dear Beth, I pray for a miracle for your hubby and for strength for you. God Bless you both, Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jana_W Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 Beth I am sorry to read about this. I hope things do improve for you and Bob. Sending you smiles Jana xxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IIIp0 Posted July 4, 2004 Author Share Posted July 4, 2004 Hello everyone -- Thank you so very much for your prayers and offerings of strength and faith. We do all so need them don't we??? Every single day is do unbelievably unique today more than ever -- each day Bob becomes a little more weak, requiring more drugs to stabilize breakthrough pain. Our daughter's last day is today before she goes off to Australia for two weeks and I tell you -- God really does work in mysterious ways. Because while my husband is too weak physicially, now -- and sooo bereft emotionally to comprehend much at all -- our daughter is so sound and strong in her love for her father and understands probably more maturely than I at times, what's happening. So they've not said their "good-byes"; but, instead she carries with her the profound knowledge of love that they have for each other. Is astounding to me. And I've encouraged her, to say what needs to be said now but like her dad, they have this unspoken pact I suppose that exhudes unconditional love and admiration. My job now, is to take her to the airport tomorrow with smiles for HER once-in-a-lifetime journey with a host of other musicians and lift her up to God to watch over her; as I ask Him to continue to do for me what I can not do for myself -- be strong, let go, have faith that because Of Him I am still here today to continue my husband's love for our daughter, and be the loving gentle wife and caretaker to my husband that at times I never was -- but always wanted to be. And the days seem to be growing shorter. Thanks for your wishes, Big Hugs - Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddy Posted July 4, 2004 Share Posted July 4, 2004 Dear Beth, Your post brought tears to my eyes. How brave and generous you are to smile for your daughter and be so pleased for her when your heart must be breaking. My heartfelt prayers are with you and your Bob. Paddy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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