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Dark meat and as much skin as possible.

I'm with Kasey, None of the above

Happiness is being comfortable with who you are, and a man named Alan

An 8 x 10 photo of Alan.

Prayers for Rich.

Nova, Alan has done this ever since his dx. after any treatment when someone would ask him how he was doing Alan would respond "I am cancer free" I would then get calls from his daughter and brother later in the evening so they could get the "real scoop" from me. I just let it go as Alan lives "with his head blissfully buried in the sand" world. I pick up the pieces of the "real world" If Alan believes he is cancer free, then maybe one day he will be.

I will add what little I can to all the wonderful advice already given. I do not take anti depressants, but would not get by without ambein to help me sleep at night. Alan has been in the battle for almost 3 years now, and the roller coaster ride has been just that up and down with some whiplashing curves in between. As for a therapist, I would check with the hospital your Mom gets her treatments at. The hospiatl Alan goes to has social workers avaible free of charge. I have been going to the social worker since Alan's dignosis. Also I was able to find a Lung cancer support goup which is for both patients and their loved ones. Many prayers for you and your family

To be honest No. I eat what is avaliable and easy. I have always been an excersise nut, but when it comes to food I honestly do not take the nutritional value into account

E-mail. I would rather a more pesonal touch, but e-mail is the quickest way to go. As for texting, for me that is equivalent to snail mail as I am so slow at it.

(((Ry)))

And not watch college football I think not. I often thought I would be able to, and then the electricity will go off for about an hour. No pioneer woman here.

Pat, You have never been far from my mind, and I have often wondered how you have been. If you feel up to it please let us know how you are doing. Yes much saddness on the board lately. My continued prayers for everyone on this board.

Christy, My gosh what a scare that was. I do not know what it is with pulmonolgists that make them think they are god. Of all the drs that have treted Alan (and there have been many these past few years) the only one with no compasion whats so ever was the pulmonolgist that was treating him during his long hospital stay a couple of years ago. He was such an a that I wanted to strangle him. I am very thankful your husband is going to be ok, but very sorry you had such a scare.

I have sat here for sometime this morning trying to figure out what to say. There are no words. I am very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your childern

Raspberries

I just wanted to share a litte of my husband's battle with you so you have another success story to read about and share with your mom. I understand what you are saying about chemo, Alan became very sick with chemo almost as if they took alan to the brink of death to save his life. Well 2.5 years after DX with extensive small cell with Mets to the brain and a recurrance this past Jan, my man is still going strong. We celebrate every day togeter as a gift. Sometimes you just have to trust that the Drs have your mom's best interest in mind. Not always easy to do when we see the effects treatment has on our loved ones. Prayers coming to you and your family.

Like some of the others, if I had the choice, I would have quit work in a minute to be with Alan. I have been very fortunate, in that I am able to come and go as Alan's appointments need me to. I did take family leave when the cancer went to his brain. We have been bleesed in the fact that Alan is doing well enough to be on his own while I am at work. I need to work to cover our bills and keep my insurance which Alan has always been covered under. But again my choice would not to work at all given that opportunity. My prayers to you and your family.

Bobby, I am very sadden to learn of the loss of your beloved sister Bev. I prayed so hard she would some how pull out of her latest battle. My prayers contiue to be with you and your family.

Snickers for me and we had to wait until Mom and Dad inspected our candy before we were allowed to eat it.

Debi, I am so very sorry. I can not even begin to find words that would be meaningful at this point May God wrap his loving arms around you and hold you close.

Alan probably because he is brining me my 1st cup of coffee

MJB, My husband had been battling the beast for a little over 2 years now. We constantly battle Alan's weight he lost another 15 pounds and is down to 159, but all his recent scans came back stable. Like your husband Alan gets tired after the smallest of tasks, but at this point we figure his body has been through so much, that this is the price he is paying for not only the cancer, but all the treatment. We still see all his drs every 2 months and scan every 3 months as Alan's last recurrance was in Jan. Alan, like your husband, is able to do everything for himeself (for the most part) and all things considered, lives a pretty full life. You have to have a comfort level though and if you feel the need to see a general practitioner then you probably should. Enjoy the wedding. Alan missed his daughters as he was in ICU. So enjoy the wonderful momemnt of your daughter getting married.

I would like to share another story of hope. Alan was DX Jan 10 2005 with ext SCLC. Had mets to the brain July 2005 reccurrance Jan 2007 and is still going strong 2.5 years after DX The road has been long and tough at times, but for now it appears to be somewhat straight, I wouldn't call it smooth, but the bumps have been a little less. We have found our new "normal" and enjoy the moments we have been given. Prayers to all of us who are going down this road.

Bobby, Yesterday for no reason I started crying when I looked at the picture I have of Alan on my desk, and he is doing well. I was a little mad at myself and then I just said the heck with it and cried. The tears come when I NEED them to. You needed to cry and there is no shame in that, what you and your family are going through, to put it bluntly, sucks. Do not beat yourself up for being HUMAN. I will pray that the fluids help your sister and that she can return home shortly. We are here for you.

Mustard, Ketchup and Relish for me.