shellybug68 Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 My father passed away on Tuesday at around 8pm. My sister had fortunately made it earlier Tuesday so we were both at his side when his body finally let go. I am glad he is no longer in any pain but still am feeling really lost without him. My life has an empty space in it now. I have been caring for him for the past eight months and it is very strange to not have him here anymore. Hospice was wonderful and I am glad my sister is still here to go through grief with me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeanCarl Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Shelly, I'm so sorry to hear this. I've been there twice (Dad in 1979, Mom in 1997) and I know that no matter what we say it will never be enough. Take the time. Do what needs doing. And know we are here for you. Dean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrea B. Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Shelly, I am so sorry to hear about your father. May your memories bring you peace and comfort over time. Blessings to you. Andrea Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shelliemacs Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 shelly, my sincerest sympathies to you and your sister. I have no words to help except time does heal wounds. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Oh Shelly...I am so sorry to hear of your Dad's death. Is there anything at all I can do for you? Hun, please try and find all the positives you can right now. I know that is very hard to do, but you can find a ray or two of sunshine if you look deep enough through all the clouds that surround you right now. I know Hospice thought there was a longer time frame involved, so for one..thank God he didn't suffer any longer than he did. I know that was a concern of yours! Also, as you said, be thankful that your sister arrived in time to see youd Dad. How is your son doing? I know he and your Dad were very close. This is all so hard on these kids and at this age, they often have such a hard time expressing feelings verbally and keep everything deep inside. Please keep my phone numbers and call me if you need to talk. Also, I'm only an hour away if you need me. So, so sorry.....Ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sam'swifeShirley Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Dear Shelly, My sincere condolences and prayers to you. God bless us all. Sam'swifeShirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Shelly, I am so sorry. My prayers are with you during this very difficult time. I wish I could say something to ease the pain. Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Dear Shelley, sinceres condolences, Nobody can replace a father and words can't say all we want. God Bless J.C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lynn Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Dear Shelly, I am sorry for the loss of your Dad. I understand what you are going through , I too was taking care of my Dad after he became ill. I am glad you and your sister have each other to lean on. God bless, Lynn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eileen Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Dear Shelly so sorry for the loss of your dear Father in sympathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
natalie Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Hi Shelly, I'm so sorry. I'm running through the motions the same time you are. Please feel free to contact me. Although I'm glad my mom is not suffering anymore, I am still numb and can't believe my mom is gone. I know what you are going through. After the week my mom died, I was terribly burnt out. I took an extra week off from work and it helped. I slept in until 11:00 in the morning, which is so unlike me, but when I got back to work, which was this Monday, I felt like I gave myself enough time to recuperate and I feel the heavy weight lifted off my shoulders. Now I'm just sad...but its an okay sad. Take care of yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathy Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Shelly I am so sorry about your dad. I know how devasted you must be feeling..Dads are special Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MO_Sugar Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 (((((Shelly))))), I am so sorry to hear about your Father's passing. God Bless, MO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowflake Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Shelly, I am so sorry you have lost someone so very close to you. I wish you strength and peace for the trials yet ahead. Becky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
betplace Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 ((((Shelly)))))) I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your Father. I Pray you find peace and serenity as time goes by. Nothing can replace him, but with time you will be able to remember the good times and not the stuff he suffered with this d#$@ disease! Blessings Betty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pritchie Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Shelly, I am so sorry for the loss of your father. My prayers are with you and your family Pamela Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shirleyb Posted February 14, 2004 Share Posted February 14, 2004 Sweetie, I am so sorry about your dad. It is one of the hardest things we go through in life. Losing those we love. My heart goes out to you at this very difficult time. My prayers are with you and your sister and the rest of your family. Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam Posted February 14, 2004 Share Posted February 14, 2004 I am so sorry for your loss.....and so sorry I can't find words to make it a little better...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fay A. Posted February 14, 2004 Share Posted February 14, 2004 I'm sorry, Shelly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted February 14, 2004 Share Posted February 14, 2004 I am so very, very sorry. Prayers for you and your family, Peg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SandyS Posted February 14, 2004 Share Posted February 14, 2004 Shelley - You have my sincerest condolences over the loss of your father. Praying for strength to help you through this difficult time, Hugs and prayers, SandyS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen Posted February 14, 2004 Share Posted February 14, 2004 Shelly, I am sorry to hear about your father's passing. It does sound like he was preparing for his transition from what you shared in your other recent post. My father-in-law went through similar. Now you are in that surreal state of loss. What I would share is that it is important to let yourself cry. My husband tried to be so strong for what seemed like a very long time and it affected his sleep in a big way. As soon as he finally took a moment to let it out, things changed. It has been 6 months now and I wouldn't say we are "through" it. Don't think it is possible. But I do think that as time goes on we find a special slightly tucked away spot in our heart for them and our grief, and when we need to we can get to that spot on a moment's notice. Don't hesitate to take hospice up on assistance with the grieving process. They've been very helpful for my mother-in-law and might have some ideas to help with your teenage son. I am so glad you have your sis there. Sisters are special. Keeping you in prayer, dear~ Karen M. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karen335 Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 Shelly, I am so sorry to read your post about your dad. May the pain that you are feeling be eased soon. I am glad you have your sister there with you. You can be consoling to each other. You are both in my prayers... God Bless and gentle hugs for both of you... Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 I am so sorry, Shelly. My prayers are with you. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiny Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 Dear Shelly- Of course you are lost and empty without your beloveed father. Please accept my condolences on his passing. The pain in intense and personal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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