Fay A. Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 After nearly two months of almost daily optical Migraines with painful Migraine-like Headaches I finally had an appointment with a Neurologist last Wednesday. While in his exam room I was interviewed by his assistant. My husband was with me. As we were going over the medical history the medical assistant kept remarking in a very clinical voice, "...This is unbelievable...". When I reached the part about the benign adrenal tumor (before the Crohn's Disease but after the benign brain tumor, the Lung Cancer, and the Polycystic Organ Disease) she stopped, put her pencil down, looked at my husband and said.... "You poor thing! This must be so hard on you." Mind you, I'm not all that crazy about my medical providers gushing overly sympathetic towards me. I want them to know their stuff, and I want them to treat me with respect. I want them to help me do the things I want to do: live long and function well, and be relatively pain free. But I think I do a fair job of dealing with the emotional aspect of all of this without a whole lot of "...poor me...". Having said all of that, I think that the pendulum has moved too far from center on the patient/caregiver issue. I know that being a caregiver to a Lung Cancer patient is tough, because I was one. But when the obvious focus of concern is NOT the patient, but rather the one who accompanies the patient to the appointment, then there is something very, very wrong. And make no mistake about it. This woman's focus was on how all of this affected my husband. Not me. sigh.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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