LynneH Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 Pat! I just got home from work, read your post, and then spotted your update. How are you doing this? You are so amazing and caring. But I'm very worried about you. I'm happy Lori is helping with Ruby and let's hope that Home Health gets to hopping high and quick and can get Ruby back to her place, both for her comfort and your relief. Brian is going to the doc Thursday so sputum talk is right around the corner. (Jim would go days with 102, 103 degree fever and forbid me to call the doctor. Agony.) So, one more day and you will get an answer. You know, my work life suffered a lot. But most people (even those we work with and for!) have incredible understanding of the trial you and Brian are going through. If muddle is the best you can muster for that right now, that is okay. You are focusing on the right thing. I don't know how Brian feels, but Jim would get upset if he thought my work life was suffering. He knew I needed my job and felt guilty about the disruption. I would try to tell him that I would worry about my job and that there was nothing more important in my life than him. Don't think he ever agreed with me, but we still have to tell them! So, grandma is resting, Brian is lovely and loving, and Lori will be back to help. That should mean that you are soaking in a hot bath, sipping some tea, and taking deep breaths. I hope you put the big fluffy towels out by the bath before you got in so you don't have to run through the house naked searching for them. But then again, that could be fun too. I won't pester you but you have my numbers if I can provide help in any way. Take care of yourself Pat, Lynne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamataca Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 "Please pray that I will do better"? Honey, you know you can't become a saint while you are still alive, right? You couldn't possible do better. I'll pray that you are taking care of yourself, too. I'll pray for some peace for all of you. I'll pray for at least one blessed moment without stress for you. I think if you do any better, you will start to glow! Whatta gal. Take care of you, OK? < Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MilliBr1 Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 Pat I am praying for strength and healing for all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 Dearest Pat, I wish there was something I can do to lighten your load. But at least from your previous post there is some good news as far as you MIL goes. I pray for her back to feel better. I will continute to pray for Brian to feel better. He is going through so much and I will continue to send him meditation prayers and keep my candle lit for him. Please know that you both are in my thougths. You are his strength and I know that his love for you gives you the strength to cope when it is so hard. You have so many prayers going out to him. Please believe that a change will come soon and Brian will be feeling better. Please take care of yourself. Remember G-d will only give you what you can handle. He helped you with your MIL when you felt so overloaded. Keep that wonderful positive "additude" you have and always shown toward others. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don M Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 Pat: I am glad to see things are a bit better for you all now and that Lori is able to help. I feel better after talking to the doc about my sputum. hopefully Brian will get some peace of mind too. you all have my continued prayers. Don M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fall54 Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 Dear Pat, Wow, what a plateful! I have always believed God only gives us what we can handle so he must have great faith in you that you can do this. God is with you and will see you through. God Bless you Sweetheart, Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jorja Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 Pat, Even though I don't "know" you, I believe you are a very strong woman. Remember, God won't give us more than we can handle. I truly admire your strength and your genorisity and He is watching you and all the selfless things you are currently doing. Just know we are all thinking, caring and praying for you. love, jorja Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kel M Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 Pat, I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking about you, Brian and Brian's Mom. My prayers are with you all. I wish you all a better day today. Kel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rogfam Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 wow, you have too much going on! I don't know how you do it, but with God, all things are possible. You are amazing, and you are definitely in my prayers! Christy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 Pat, Glad to hear you are getting a bit of help. Know that you have my prayers , always. Love, Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melindasue37 Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 Pat, I'm so late to this post, but I wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you. You really do have your hands full right now. But, as others have said....god only gives us what he knows we can handle. One step, one day at a time. You will get overwhelmed, how could you NOT? But, we are all here cheering you on and wishing there was more we could do to help you. We will be waiting patiently for the good news after Brians appt tomorrow. In the meantime, hang in there. Don't ever doubt yourself. You are a strong, loving, caring woman and you can do this!!! Now, no more reports of not sleeping. Got it? Love, Melinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nancy c Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 You are doing a wonderful job--don't under estimate yourself. You have alot going on. More than anyone should have to deal with. Take care of yourself. God bless, nancy C Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jyoung20 Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 Pat, You have so much on your plate. All you can do is the best you can do and it's obvious you are doing just that. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Jamie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaffie Posted September 28, 2005 Share Posted September 28, 2005 This has to be so hard for you, it's too much. I wish you good luck and am sending prayers. I hope your MIL can go home soon so you and Brian can have your privacy back. You two need your alone time. Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted September 29, 2005 Share Posted September 29, 2005 Pat, Prayers to ease all the load you have, did they checked for kidney stones? Hugs J.C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hopeandstrength Posted October 10, 2005 Share Posted October 10, 2005 Pat, I'm so sorry that I missed this until now. Hopefully things are getting better. I'm not sure if anyone said, but UTI's can cause confusion in elderly people. I remember that from nursing school. Anyway...I hope Brian is feeling better and you are getting a break here and there! You certainly deserve one! Of course the thoughts and prayers are coming at you all! Take care, Cathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted October 11, 2005 Share Posted October 11, 2005 WOW!!! Someone must really think your Wonder Woman. In the words of Helen Reddy, I am Woman Hear me Roar!!! Put on your game face and push through this. You know you can...(even if you don't want to) Tough times...seems like you've reached a new definition. You'll of course be in our thoughts. Brian and his mother too. Vicky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dadstimeon Posted October 15, 2005 Share Posted October 15, 2005 Prayers for the both of you Pat/Brian. Rich Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lilyjohn Posted October 16, 2005 Share Posted October 16, 2005 Hi Pat. I would put money on her problem being a UTI. The confusion is the key. When I was working in assisted living anytime a person became confused or their behavior made a drastic change we would get a urine sample. Almost 100% of the time there would be a UTI. If a person has any dementia it can really be serios. Add your mother in law's pain and I would say that is certainly an emergency situation. I agree that most people treat the elderly very badly. It is just so wrong. They have a whole lifes worth of experience and so much that we could all learn from them. I love working with elderly people. After all we will be old someday. Some people just don't want to be around older people because it is a constant reminder of that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kreed70 Posted October 17, 2005 Share Posted October 17, 2005 Pat, I am sorry that this is all going on at once! I'll pray for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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