jendew Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 My father now has a very large tumor on his thoracic spine causing paralysis. He's been unable to walk since Friday. It is so large they started irradiating it today immediately after they found it. I am numb. He told me today to take care of my mother for him, and also for me to "take care of his girls", meaning my daughters. My father has always been my hero, and to see him hurting so is killing me inside. I just feel so damn helpless. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamataca Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 I just hate this for you. From your dad's words, it is clear how much he loves you, and how much he trusts you. I can't imagine how painful this is for you, but I am glad you guys can still talk about what is in your hearts. I'm praying for strength and peace for both of you. Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jendew Posted July 31, 2006 Author Share Posted July 31, 2006 I just got word from my sister (I had to leave and get my daughter to volleyball practice) that they cannot even treat my father with radiation because of the prior radiation. They've done pretty much all they can do for him. His primary care doctor and the oncologist are conferring to see whether or not they can admit him to the hospital for monitoring. I'm sure hospice is the next step. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Linda661 Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 Oh Jen, I'm so sorry to read this . Please keep us posted -- had to edit the rest of my post when I saw that radiation isn't an option anymore right now... Linda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joanie55 Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 Jen, I'm so sorry to hear this latest news. Hopefully they will make your dad comfortable and he won't have any pain. My very best to you all. Joan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EastCoastLadi Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 Jen, It breaks my heart to hear this, it hits too close to home for me. This reminds me about what we went thru w/ my dad, about a year ago, his cancer had grown, there wasn't much else to do, he wanted to come home and be with his family. At that point it was whatever my dad wanted he got...I pray that they make your dad as comfortable as possible and pain free. My prayers are with you tonite. Grace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daggiesmom Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 Jen, Prayers that Dad is comfortable and your family is comforted in knowing that. We're all behind you. Joanie ((())) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 i am so sorry to hear this news tonite. Sending Prayers for the Family for Strenght and Peace at this time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ma's kid Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 Your post brought tears to my eyes..I am so sorry, Jen. Please update as you can. Blessings, Libby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hollyanne Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 Oh Jen - this hits close to home for me as well. My mom also couldn't have radiation again, and suffered immobility because of it. Your dad seems at peace...I pray that all of you are. Holly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
icbn Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 Jan I pray all will be well. Your father is lucky to have such a caring daughter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 Very sad news, Jen. Yes, it is a hopeless feeling. My prayers are with you and family. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 Jen, I'm so sorry... We're here to support you. Let your Dad know that we are all praying for him and won't stop. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamasbabygirl Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 Jen, I am saddened to read this news. I know how much you worry about your dad. Your posts show how much you love him. I wish there was an option for him. I will pray that something opens up for him and that you stay sane in the mean time. Many prayers coming for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
terriep Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 I will be praying for you and your family as well. Your love for your dad and your family shines through your posts. God bless you....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jendew Posted August 1, 2006 Author Share Posted August 1, 2006 Well, they are admitting him in the morning (he chose to come home tonight to be with his family) and will have a neurosurgeon evaluate him. If they are able to do surgery, he may not make it through surgery...if we do nothing, he will become completely paralyzed and will lose all bowel and bladder function. We are already seeing some signs of that. I cannot describe the pain I am in tonight, although I know some of you have felt the same pain. Tomorrow is a big decision making day. The tumor is growing so fast they are afraid he'll become paralyzed tonight. I can't believe this is happening. The one way my father never wanted to live is happening. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErinC1973 Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 Oh, God, Jen...I am so sorry. Your poor dad. Praying for your and your family tonight, tomorrow, and from now on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jorja Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 I am soooo terribly sorry. I know exactly how you must be feeling right now! Hopefully they can just make your dad feel comfortable and pain free. Prayers will be sent for your dad tonight and tomorrow. love, jorja Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EastCoastLadi Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 (((Jen))) It breaks my heart to read all that your dad is going thru. I know you feel so helpless, and I know that your mind is spining right now, please know your dad and you and your family are in my prayers. Grace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmrsm Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 Jen, I am so sorry you have to go through this. I lost my father 2 months ago to this disease and it is so hard. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. Stay strong for your girls they will need you as you will need them. God Bless you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kreed70 Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 Jen~ I am so, so sorry. I am praying for you, your family, the docs and your dad!! Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dchurchi Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 My Dear Jen, I am so sadden to read this post. I pray the Drs, help relieve your Dad of any pain. I am not sure what else to say other than I will be praying for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trish2418 Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 Jen, my prayers are with you, your dad and your family. We're here for you. Hugs, Trish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 Jen, I am so sorry to read this news about your father. I know how terrified you must be right now. Know that we will be keeping you and your father in our thoughts and prayers. Please let us know how today goes at the hospital. I pray there is something they can do to help your father. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Linda661 Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 Jen: Things changing so fast like this is so, so hard to cope with. Crossing everything and praying that the docs. will have an answer to help today. Linda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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