SC7454 Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 It's hard for me to talk about details....but mom passed on 11/6. She just really went downhill the last week and fast. She finally accepted a catheter on the 2nd as she was in horrible pain when I would roll her to change her, I can't even tell you much I cried when I would move her. She passed peacefully after she finally accepted liquid morphine the morning of the 6th (wasn't making any sense verbally) and passed that night at 7:56pm. She had been struggling to breathe that day (even though we were giving her oxygen), and calmed down when I gave her the scheduled dose of morphine at 7:30pm. I was there but stepped out of the room for about 30 seconds after she seemed to be sleeping (hospice nurse told me that day that it would be maybe less than a week, so I had no idea it would be that night). I came back in and she was gone. She was absolutely wonderful/sweet/kind/loving to me the last week or two, which made it more difficult....but I'm so thankful for that. That morning she was hot (kept going back and forth from hot to cold) and I kept putting cold washcloths on her forehead and the only time she was making sense is when I could put the washcloth on her head and she would say, "Oh Stephie, that feels so good." Makes me smile to think of her saying that. She looked at me and said, "i'm dying honey." Those were the only times she was making sense that last 2 days. I guess she knew better than the nurses. AND, you all were right, I have no regrets and am glad that I stuck through it with her. Her wake and funeral were lovely and I think she would be happy with it all. I found a sheet where she had wrote 'songs I want played at my wake." So a friend of mine put them all on CD. I miss her...even through it all. I remember when I was a little girl and when I would leave for school she used to say 'Open your pocket." I'd open my pocket up and she's stick her hand in my pocket and would say, "i've put a little love in your pocket. If you get lonely, you just pat your little hand on your pocket and remember the love I put in there." She was a good mommy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bev'sSister Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 I am so sorry to hear that your Mom passed. I kept up with your posts and was worried we haven't heard any more. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tnmynatt Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 I'm so sorry. I reread your mom's history. She was a fighter. My condolences to you and your family. Prayers for strength, comfort and peace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 I am so sorry you lost your mom-- Rochelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 Oh my. I'm so sorry. I know she was a good Mommy, and you were an excellent daughter to her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gwen, Daddy's girl Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 So sorry. I'm so glad you told us about your Mom putting a little love in your pocket. What a sweet Mommy. Gwen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 I am very sorry for the loss of your mom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trish2418 Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 Please accept my condolences. May your mom rest in peace. Trish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzie Q Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 My deepest sympathies to you in your loss. What a sweet memory - of the love she put in your pocket. ~Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kreed70 Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 I am so, so sorrry!! She was an awesome mommy and you are an awesome daughter!!!! Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Littlegirl Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 I'm so sorry you lost your mom. Hope you find comfort in knowing she is not suffering anymore. Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 So very sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindi o'h Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 honey, I am so sorry for your loss. Touched my heart to tears with the love in your pocket memory. Can hardly imagine anything as sweet as that. Cindi o'h Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ma's kid Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 I have been so worried about you...please accept my sincere condolences on the passing of your mom. Gentle hugs, Stephanie. Libby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamasbabygirl Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 Stephanie, I am sorry your mom lost her fight, but you were there with her through all of it and you should be proud of the amazing job you did. I send prayers of strength to you. Thanks for the pocket story, made me smile. XXXOOOO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 My heartfelt sympathies on the loss of your mom. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Linda661 Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 I'm so sorry to read this news. My sincere condolences to you and your family -- I cried at the story about the love in your pocket. What a special mom she was and still is. Linda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j's girl Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 I am so sorry! What an incredible Mom you had. And lucky to have such a fantastic daughter. Shauna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Martha02 Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 I am sooo sorry, I know it's hard but hang in there. What you wrote was so similar to my mom last days. It I know it's painful. Big hug Martha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamataca Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 So sorry for this unbelievable loss. Thank you so much for sharing your story. So sad, yet so beautiful. Lots of prayers for you. Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris Norfolk Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 It may be so little right now, but I am just so sorry to hear this. Your Mum sounds like a fantastic human being. The story about a bit of love in your pocket has brought me to tears. My thoughts are with you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EastCoastLadi Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 I'm very sorry about your mom, I know the difficulties that you had been having over the past several weeks. I hope that you can take some comfort in knowing that your being there for your mom was the best thing that she experienced in her final moments. My prayers go out to you, please know we're here for you.... Grace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Larry Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 So sorry for your loss. But just remember the pain is gone and her joy is now.........Larry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wyogirl Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 So very sorry for the loss of your mom. Peace be with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharonjo Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers. God Bless, Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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