gail p-m Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 I have been taking care of my Dad for a bit over a month now. He entered an "in home" hospice program last Thursday and passed away last night (Tues). He beat this damn disease for almost 6 years and at his age, that was pretty impressive. I was not with him when he passed. He had just gone into the "hospice facility" today and I went home to get a change of clothes to spend the night and found out that he had passed in the while I was on my way back. It was such a fast decline. Each day brought something new and it wasn't good. I am alone tonight except for my 2 dogs who give me a lot of comfort. My children were flying from Vancouver to see their Grandpa and will arrive tomorrow but it's too late. My husband will arrive the following evening. He did not have a "good" death and I'm not impressed with hospice -- the in home care and the facility. I guess I should get to bed -- it's almost 3:30 AM. I hate lung cancer. Thanks for listening. gail p-m Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karenl Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Gail, so sorry to hear this, and I'm sorry that hospice wasn't what you'd hoped for. Wishing you peace in the days ahead. Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Gail, I am so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindi o'h Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 So very sorry, Gail. I am sorry that he was suffering so. Cindi o'h Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tnmynatt Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Gail, My condolences. Sorry it was so difficult. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joanie55 Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Gail, My sincere condolences to you and your family. I'm so sorry it wasn't a peaceful ending for your dad. Joan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 (((Gail))), I am so very sorry. You fought the good fight right alongside your Dad for the past 6 years. This just has to be a most difficult, sad time for you. I'm hoping you can draw on the many positive experiences that occurred for you both during this journey. You were such an admirable advocate............nothing to second guess about. Am sending many prayers your way to help get you through. Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marym Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Gail, I'm so sorry for your loss. Be with your family and share the good times. Mary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Littlegirl Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Gail - I am so sorry. Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Connie22 Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Gail- I am so very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family at this time of sadness! Hugs and prayers Connie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Oh Gail, I am just so very sorry. I know how very much you loved you Dad. You were a wonderful daughter and caregiver. Remembering you and your family in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathy Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Dear Gail, I am so so sorry, sending you prayers for strength to get through this devasting time and for peace for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Gail, You couldn't have loved or cared for him better. I'm so very sorry that your Dad is gone. It's so hard when the decline comes so fast. You want that precious time to adjust to 'non-fight' mode, but instead you deal with those new horrible things each day. Praying for you and hurting with you. Val Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamataca Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Gail, I, too, am so sorry for your loss. I am saddened that your children and husband couldn't make it in time. Your dad had an amazing journey through the last 6 years, and you were there with him for all of that. You are in my prayers. Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gail Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 I am so sorry to hear this news. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I cannot imagine your pain. gail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmrsm Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Gail I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my father unexpectedly from this disease 2 1/2 months ago so I know what you are feeling. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. God Bless. Cathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jorja Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Gail, I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. Please know you and your family are in my prayers. I know exactly what you are going through. love, jorja Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 (((Gail))), I am so very sorry for the loss of your Dad. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with your family. Love, Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daggiesmom Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 So sorry to read of your Dad's passing. He was such a fighter - 6 years is truly someting. Peace and prayers to you and your family. Joan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindy0519 Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Such sad news.... I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with your family. God Bless and keep you, Cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EastCoastLadi Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Gail, I am very sad to read about your dads' passing. Please know that he fought an incredibly brave and difficult fight with strength and dignity. My prayers are going out for you and your family at this difficult time. Grace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jdjenkins Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 I'm so very sorry for your loss. I pray for strength for you and your family. I hate lung cancer too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 I am so sorry for your loss. How awful for you. I am glad your family will be there soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Linda661 Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Gail: I am so sorry to read of your loss and the unhappiness surrounding a not-so-terrific hospice experience. Please accept my sincere condolences and prayers for peace and comfort to you and your family. Linda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamasbabygirl Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 Gail, I am so sorry you lost your dad and that you are trying to cope with all of this alone. Take comfort in knowing you were the one to care for him and how appreciative he was of that. (((Gail))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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