dawn79 Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 My mom passed away at about 1:40 yesterday afternoon. I am at a complete loss of words. I don't know what to do or say. My dad is a complete wreck. I know I have to be strong for him, but it's so hard. He's lost the love of his life, and there's nothing I can do to make him feel better. I'm worried about him and his health. On a slightly more positive note, I think my mom waited for me to get to the hospital. I arrived late (about 1:15) and she died at 1:40. She knew how much I loved her. That I know for sure. If anyone has any advice on how to get through this rough time, please let me know. I'm at a loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nutbar Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 Dawn, I am so sorry for your loss and I totally understand. My mom passed away on Thursday night. My dad is a wreck as well and I have been there for him for the last few days but I still worry about him and his health. We now have the visitation and memorial service behind us but I think the hard part is just beginning. I have been too distracted and busy to really think too much. Make sure you get as much rest as you can because the next few days are going to be unbelievably exhausting. Take care of your dad but don't forget that you need to take care of yourself too. I will be thinking of you. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 I am very sorry for the loss of your mom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Martha02 Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 I am so sorry for your lost. I will pray for you and your family to get the strenght you need to get through the next few days and time to come! martha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 I am sorry you lost your mom, and I can relate much with your dad. I lost my wife to LC about 8 weeks ago. I just take it a day at a time, and do what I need to do for me. I am also in a grief support group, which helps me. We all need to talk about our loss to someone. It helps the healing. Take care. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nikkala Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 I am so sorry Dawn. Please just remember to take good care of yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EastCoastLadi Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 Dawn, I am so sorry about your mom. My sincerest prayers and condolenses go out to you and your family. Grace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 I am very sorry you lost your mom-- my condolences to you and your father. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Littlegirl Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 I am so sorry for your loss. Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 My condolences to you and your family. May God give you the strength to get through this time. Love and Prayers, Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MsC1210 Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 Dawn I am so sorry about the loss of your Mom. Please accept my deepest condolences and sympathies. Chris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 Dawn, I am so sorry. I know there is nothing as great as a Mom. Advice. I wish I had some. I am in week 5 of this myself. I think it just hurts. Don't grow impatient with yourself for not "being strong" or not "getting better". Don't be surprised if you feel numb at some point. Don't be surprised when one minute you are OK, and the next you aren't. Grieving, so I am discovering, is a rollercoaster, and I am not rushing it. Take your time and know we are here. Again, I am truly deeply sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mskim Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 (((((Dawn))))) even after 6 months, I am reeling at moments, there is something about a mother daughter bond. I wish I had some good advice, just know that there are prayers being said for you and your family and there will come a day, when it still hurts, but it won't knock you down every moment. I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 Dawn, I am so sorry to hear about your Mom.... as for grieving, we all do it so differently and there is no "right" way or "wrong" way to grieve. The best advice I can give you is to "go with what your feeling".... don't try to squelch it... and just let it all out. You will get stronger.... Again, I am so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamasbabygirl Posted November 14, 2006 Share Posted November 14, 2006 I am so sorry Dawn. This is one of the hardest things that will happen in your life, be easy on yourself. Let it out so your dad knows it's OK to let it out too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatieB Posted November 14, 2006 Share Posted November 14, 2006 I'm so sorry for your loss. I do understand and I am saying a prayer for you and your dad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharonjo Posted November 14, 2006 Share Posted November 14, 2006 Dawn, I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep your family in my prayers. God Bless, Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NancyT Posted November 14, 2006 Share Posted November 14, 2006 Dawn, I am so sorry for the loss of your Mom. Sending prayers and comfort to you and your family NancyT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamataca Posted November 14, 2006 Share Posted November 14, 2006 Oh, I am so sorry you are going through this right now. Take it second by second, and then minute by minute. You might surprise yourself at one point to be able to go day by day, but don't rush to get there. Lots of love and prayers for you. Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MEA Posted November 14, 2006 Share Posted November 14, 2006 Dawn, Prayers for strength, comfort and peace for you and your Dad. Mary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trish2418 Posted November 14, 2006 Share Posted November 14, 2006 Please accept my condolences. May your mom rest in peace. Trish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Welthy Posted November 14, 2006 Share Posted November 14, 2006 Dawn, So very sorry about the loss of your Mom. I'm 22 years down the road from my Mom's death, but can still remember the acute pain I felt for my Dad and myself. I think Nick C. hit the raw emotions on the head. It does get easier, but it takes a lot of time. Make sure you take care of yourself (and your Dad) during the difficult grieving times ahead. Someday you will remember the happy times and the disease won't dominate your memories of your Mom. I know this doesn't help now. (((Hugs))) Welthy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j's girl Posted November 15, 2006 Share Posted November 15, 2006 I too lost my Mom fairly recently and am concerned about my Dad as well. I think it's important to just be with him as much as you can and for him to know that he can come to you whenever he needs to. My Dad seems to just want to get out of the house as much as he can. I live 5 hours away and my Brother is much closer so Dad spends a lot of time with him. Put one foot in front of the other and time will move on. Praying for you and your Dad. Shauna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adela Posted November 15, 2006 Share Posted November 15, 2006 So sorry for your loss Adela Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shirleysgirl Posted November 17, 2006 Share Posted November 17, 2006 Dawn, I'm so very sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your father. I lost my mom several years ago, but I can still recall how lost I felt, as did my Dad. I just let him know that I was there for him. As for getting through it, Nick's comments hit home. It takes time, but it will get easier. I will keep you in my prayers. Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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