VegasMomOf3 Posted October 13, 2007 Share Posted October 13, 2007 Hello everyone, Today at 8:12am my Mom passed on. She was sedated & comfortable and is now in a better place with no pain or shortness of breath. This surely proves to be a double edged sword..........want her here vs. want her at peace. Hospice was amazing. My Dad is in shock....he says that it just doesn't seem real. I agree. I keep walking back to her bedroom expecting to see her in bed. How is it anyone can come to terms or even begin to accept losing a person who has been a constant fixture since the day I was born?? Mom & Dad were married 48 years (since age 16 & 17) so I hurt for my Dad. I just don't know what to tell him when he asks how to move on. Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 One foot in front of the other Breathe in and Breathe out. I did not have that many years but I had 10 Quality years. My deepest sympathies and thoughts and Prayers tonite for everyone. Cry whenever you want and don't let anyone tell you how to be or feel. Let me know If I can help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
overtherainbow Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 Donna, I am so sorry to hear this. Keep posting here whenever you need to - you will find it to be an enormous comfort in the coming weeks. I know the feeling of being relieved that your loved one is finally at peace but still desperately wanting them to still be here. We're all here... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laban Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 Donna, Please accept my most sincere condolences for the loss of your Mom. Just being there for your Dad is all you can do right now. I'm saying prayers for you all tonight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vespa68 Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 Hello Donna, I have been following your story and I want you to know that I am crying right along with you on the loss of your mom. She is in a better place, but it still does not take away the void and loss that they leave behind. I am so sorry for your loss. Moms are so special because they have been with you since day one and know you better than you know yourself. My mom's health has steadily declined and I am will soon be where you are now and it scares the c--- out of me. If I can help, please let me know. Big hugs! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 I'm sorry Donna. I know what some of these emotions are like. We'll be here. I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 (((Donna))), I am so very sorry for your loss. It won't be easy for your Dad or any of your family, but as I was told when I lost my husband of 36 years, "the only way out is through". I guess that applies to all of us and there is no way around it ( so many times I wished there was), but one day at a time we make it. You and your family have my sincere condolences. Love, Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nyka69 Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 I am so deeply sorry for your loss. New to the grieving process myself, I know I am still experiencing that odd numbness that it just can't be real. Nothing can prepare us for losing our loved ones. The only thing I can offer to you is that you each need to grieve in your own way. Cry if you want to cry. Sleep if you want to sleep. Talk if you want to talk. And of course I send wishes of peace and healing for you and all the members of your family during this difficult time. Peace, Nanci Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 I am so sorry for your loss. Rochelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barbb Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 I am so sorry for your loss. It is true you go through this one step at a time, one day or one hour or 1 minute at a time. I was with my mom in Phoenix when she passed from breast cancer 11 years ago. It does get less painful but oh how I miss her. Dad just needed us to call him and talk to him and let him talk. Maybe that is what will help your dad. Barbb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christine Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. Christine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fillise Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 Donna, I am so very sorry. Please accept my deepest condolences. I will keep you in my prayers for strangth and for peace from knowing that your wondrful mom is out of pain and at peace. ((((Donna)))) Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nova Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 I'm sorry for you and your Dad. Prayers being said for you, Nova Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamasbabygirl Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 I don't know how either Donna, but I do understand. Be kind to yourself. I am so sorry for your tremendous loss Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don M Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 Donna' please accept my condolences for your loss. Don M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie UK Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 Sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself. Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lc46 Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 I am so sorry to hear this news. May you find comfort in the arms of your family and friends in the days to come. Dar Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 Please accept my condolences, Donna. I am so sorry. May memories of your wonderful mother help see you through these very dark days. You have been an amzing daughter.....may that be of some comfort as well. Prayers offered for your family. Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather_T Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dadstimeon Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 Donna, Very sorry for your loss. Rich Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrea Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 I am so sorry Sending prayers of comfort your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 Donna-- I am so sorry. She didn't lost the fight. She just gave her life in the battle. I'm so sorry that she did. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tnmynatt Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 I'm so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you, your dad and the rest of your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lilyjohn Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 Where in Washington did your mom live? I lived there while living with Johnny and caring for him. We lived in Centralia. His Oncologist was Western Washington. Very bad experience wtih them. Just wondering if her's were the same and what kind of treatment she recieved if it was. I am very sorry for your loss. I know only too well what your dad is going through. There is not much you can do for him. Just let him know that you are there and if he wants to talk, let him. So many people try to avoid talking about a loved on who has passed and often the spouse or partner feel like what little they have left of that person is being taken away too. You and your dad will be in my prayers. I hate that monster of a disease. It robs us of so much Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharonjo Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 Donna, I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. God Bless, Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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