Char81062 Posted December 10, 2007 Share Posted December 10, 2007 Dear Everyone, I wanted to write this letter to tell you what a wonderful group of people are on this website. My Mother was diagnosed with sclc in April 06 and I started writing on this website and asking for advice, guidance and sometimes just a venue to vent. Don was even on the phone to me talking to me about everything just as if I was a friend. I never did put all the treatments that everyone else updated on their site. Basically after she was diagnosed she started Chemo, and did fairly well with that. She had radiation in Sept and again all was well. Then later she had a breakthrough and the tumors in her lung were gone. I wrote here that even if I could say The Cancer is Gone for a day, a week, a month I could still at that moment say it was GONE!! Well she got back her strength, she was doing more and more things that she had done before and my Sister and Brother and I took her to Atlantic City for a day of 000 this past October. We were even planning another day trip on the Friday after Thanksgiving. Our whole world changed Wednesday Nov 21st when my Mother was too weak to get out of bed and her speech was at times incoherent or inappropriate. She was admitted to the hospital and they took 2 MRI's between Wed and Fri. Saturday her Dr. told us the bad news that she had multiple lesions in her brain and he thought she would have a couple of weeks at best. She slept most of the time and was only awake for short periods but on one of those she told me she was scared to die. I told her I was scared too. We took her home on Monday and there she rested and was visited by everyone who cared about her. Her Husband Sisters, nieces, children and grandchildren were all there to say goodbye to a truly extraordinary woman. I say extraordinary because everyone loved my Mother. Shortly after 2am on Thursday November 29th my wonderful beautiful Mother passed from this world and into God's arms. People would say to me in the next days that she's in a better place and it was all a part of God's plan. I said to one of them, Well I wished He had a different plan. We had a lot of quality time between the last time I wrote you all and told you of her great news. When everything was so new to me I could come here to this site and read about other people and talk. You will never know how very comforting it was then and in writing this letter now it helps just a little with the grieving process. I've cried a lot but because it was so painful, I decided in the last several days that I just wasn't going to think about it. Writing this has helped and thank you tremendously for the great support you give. Always believe in a cure, even if it is for a short time or a long time. My prayers go out to all who are still fighting the fight and those who support them. Love and Grattitude for you all, Charlene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patkid Posted December 10, 2007 Share Posted December 10, 2007 OHHH, Char, I am so very very sorry for your loss, but your post is beautiful and brought tears to my eyes. Hugs for all your family. Pat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted December 10, 2007 Share Posted December 10, 2007 Charlene, I'm so very, very sorry. Know that we are still here for you in your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MsC1210 Posted December 10, 2007 Share Posted December 10, 2007 Charlene, I am so sorry to read this. Please accept my heartfelt sympathies and condolencs. Your post is truly beautiful. Thank you for sharing your Mom with us and remember that we will continue to be here for you in the coming days. Warmly Christine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teriw Posted December 10, 2007 Share Posted December 10, 2007 Charlene, I so understand the shock when things seem to change so dramatically, so quickly. I'm so sorry for your loss. Please know there are always people here who understand and who want to help you through. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blueeye Posted December 10, 2007 Share Posted December 10, 2007 I am so very sorry for your great loss. I too lost my Mother 11/28/07. She was my best friend. I agree whol heartedly with what you said about wishing He had another plan. PM me anytime you like we all understand here on this wonderful board that none of us ever wanted to find. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted December 10, 2007 Share Posted December 10, 2007 My thoughts and Prayers and Condolences go out to you and the entire Family. THat was a Beautiful Tribute toi Mom and Thanks For sharing it with us. this is a new normal now the third and another very difficult one to get used to. Please know that we are here any time that you need us for anything even if just to vent and get things off your mind, We do understand what you are going thru and If we can help we will... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted December 10, 2007 Share Posted December 10, 2007 I am so sorry for your loss. My sympathy to you and your family. Rochelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nova Posted December 11, 2007 Share Posted December 11, 2007 I'm so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted December 11, 2007 Share Posted December 11, 2007 Charlene, I am very sorry. I wish it could have been a different plan for you as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamataca Posted December 11, 2007 Share Posted December 11, 2007 I am so sorry for your loss. I love that you celebrated those cancer free days, hours, and weeks. Your mom does sound extraordinary, and her spirit seems to flow through your words. Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ztweb Posted December 11, 2007 Share Posted December 11, 2007 Charlene, I am so sorry to read your post. You most certainly have my prayers for peace, love, and hope this holiday. Eternal rest be granted unto her oh Lord, and may Your perpetual light shine upon her always. Jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wendyr Posted December 11, 2007 Share Posted December 11, 2007 Charlene: that was a beautiful post and tribute to your dear mother. I am so sorry that she has passed and left you to grieve. Please accept my deepest condolences on your loss. God Bless wendyr Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted December 11, 2007 Share Posted December 11, 2007 Char, I am so very sorry you have lost your beautiful mom. Thank you for sharing your tribute to her. My prayers for strength to help you and your family through the days ahead. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lc46 Posted December 11, 2007 Share Posted December 11, 2007 I am very sorry to hear of your Mom's passing. My you find strength and comfort in the days to come Dar Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leela Posted December 11, 2007 Share Posted December 11, 2007 I'm so very sorry. Peace, Lisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Welthy Posted December 11, 2007 Share Posted December 11, 2007 My deepest condolences. Welthy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luvmydad Posted December 11, 2007 Share Posted December 11, 2007 Please accept my heartfelt condolences. I am so very sorry for your loss. May God grant you peace in the coming days. Teresa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VegasMomOf3 Posted December 12, 2007 Share Posted December 12, 2007 My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I just recenly lost my Mom so if you would ever like to chat feel free to pm me. It's gut wrenching to let go of such a dynamic person we've known our entire lives but I'm sure she could feel all the love from you and the family asa I know my own Mom did. Hugs, Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brandyswa Posted December 12, 2007 Share Posted December 12, 2007 I am so sorry for your loss, remember your mom will always be with you and think about the good times. Thank you for sharing your moms tribute. Hugs to you. Brandy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fillise Posted December 12, 2007 Share Posted December 12, 2007 I am so sorry to hear of your mother's passing. Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomsGirl Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 Charlene, I'm so sorry your mom lost this fight. She sounds like a wonderful, loving woman and mom. My heart and prayers go out to you... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tjrasMOM Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 Charlene, I haven't been visiting this site much...to be honest, for selfish reasons....my mom has completed 5 cycles and is doing FANTASTIC! You would never know she has lung cancer. She has been volunteering her artisitic skills in my daughters' school, has been taking on little art jobs here and there...painting for others. We are leaving on the 22nd for a beachhouse for Christmas with her entire family. Why not travel with her health so good right now? So, I don't come here as often because I really like pretending that she doesn't have cancer. I like to wish it away. And sometimes I get so sad when I come here. But I needed to come today for some reason...and your post made me realize that I can't let myself get too carried away with the "pretending". I need to enjoy her as much as I can....enjoy and soak up all the time I can with her. I sit here crying, tears dripping on the keyboard as I feel your pain and sorrow. My heart feels twisted...for you. I'm so sorry that you have had to go through this pain. I'm so sorry your wonderful mom is gone. Yes, I too wish God had a different plan. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tnmynatt Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. My condolences to you and your family during this difficult time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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