shelliemacs Posted April 10, 2005 Share Posted April 10, 2005 as older members of the board know, I lost my mom to LC in August of 2003, my dad to LC in June of 2004. then my sister got Dx'd with breast cancer the day we burried dad and yesturday we found out my father in law is stage 4 NSCLC. Mets everywhere. He is a firefighter who also smoked. between the 2, he was exposed to so much smoke and carcinogens. He collapsed in his bathroom and after two full days of tests we got the news. mets to the brain, adrenals, kidneys, liver and both lungs. the say weeks. He is passing on any treatment. The dr.s tell us there is so much cancer that they are not sure he could survive the first treatment. we are going to support this decision, but my husband is dying inside. he stood by me when it was me going through it with my own parents and after 14 years of marriage I feel his dad is mt dad. I just can not believe this is happening again. how much can a person withstand before the think there is some sort of curse following them. I am absolutely numb and thank god for my meds I went back on. were moving his dad in with us so I can take care of him. Unfortunately I have lived hospice twice now and can do what he needs done. he still has his sense of humor but I am afraid the meds to reduce his brain swelling will take that light from his eyes very soon. I am not sure how I will get through this onem i guess like with both my mom and dad, I just went through the motions. cancer is just a family destroying nightmare. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daggiesmom Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 I just don't know what to say to you. I've never seen so much trouble as you've been subjected to. I can only hope your father in law has relief from this terrible pain. You are the strongest person - you'll make it thru somehow. We're all behind you. ((())) Joanie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 You are right -- it is a nightmare. So sorry, good friend. Hang in there -- again. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carrie Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Shelly, I am so sorry. That is way to o much to have to go through with this beast. I will be praying for you, your husband and your family. I will pray that God gives you the strength you will need through this - and I am sure he will. God Bless, Carrie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Shelly dear, I am so very sorry. You are right, it is a family nightmare. I wish I had something, anything that could help you. It just doesn't seem fair. I will keep you close in my thoughts and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jana_W Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Oh I am so so sorry to read about this. I don't know what else to say. We are all here for you,and your husband. Jana xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddy Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Oh Shellie, What can I say, what can anyone say?! This is just too terrible! I hope you will be able to keep your father-in-law peaceful and pain free. God Bless you for your devotion. You and all your family will be in my prayers. Love,Paddy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justakid Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 I am speechless too! But him being a firefighter, I never thought about them.......imagine what they are exposed too! I can not believe how this is running in families (I mean I believe that part) but not crossing to the other side (there's no link) it only goes to show how out of control this all is! You are in my thoughts and prayers! We have to find a cure for lung cancer! and other cancers! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wendy Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 I am so sorry for that you are once again going through this battle with a loved one! I am sending strength and prayers your way, Wendy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patkid Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Shelly, God bless you. Mah He strengthen your hands and heal your heart. Special prayers Pat and Brian Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stand4hope Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Shelly, I am crushed to read this. I just can't believe it. I don't know what to say except that I'm so very sorry you have to go through this again. And I'm saddened for your husband as well. ((((((((((SHELLY & HUBBY)))))))))))))) Love, Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calintay Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 So Sorry Shellie! Stay tough and prayers are with you and your family Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 I am so sorry Shelly. Your FIL is so blessed to have you to help with his care. Hang in there. I can't believe this is happening to you again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gail p-m Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Oh Shellie -- I don't know what to say either. I had to look at your title and your name at least a couple of times to make sure it was you. You are living a nightmare. There's no doubt about it. It has to stop sometime and soon. In the meantime prayers to you for the strength to carry on and care for your father-in-law. Prayers for all of you. Gail p-m Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Shellie, when I read what is going on with your family and all the hardships you have been through it is hard to find the right words of comfort. Nothing I can think of could be enough for all the pain you have endured. My heart breaks for you and your family. You are a wonderful daugher-in-law to take care of you FIL...he is blessed as everyone in your family is to have you. I pray for strength for you as your seem to be the caregiver in these situations. Please always know that we are here to send prayers show support and a shoulder to cry on. I pray for a lighter load for you to carry. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fall54 Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Dear Shelly, My heart breaks for you. You will be rewarded in Heaven. God bless you all, Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna G Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Shelly, you and your family are in my prayers. Donna G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Shelly, I am sooo sorry this has happened to you. It is truly a nightmare. I am totally at a loss for words . Just know that my prayers are with you, your fil, your husband and all of your family. God Bless you. (((Hugs))) Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 I just can't even fathom.... I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bbays Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 I am so sorry. Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathy Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Shelly, I too dont know what to say, know I am here for you anytime.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hebbie Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Shelley, I am just at a loss for words. This is so unbelievably cruel. My thoughts are with you and your husband, as well as your father in law. He is very fortunate to have you take care of him in his final weeks. I wish him much comfort and peace knowing that you are there for him. Heather Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 oh Shelly, Where does one find the fairness in all of this? It seems incredibly cruel that this is happening to you again. NO ONE should have to know as much about Lung Cancer and Hospice as you are forced to know... I don't know what to say to make anything less painful. I am just so very sorry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhutch1366 Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Ah, Shelly, If this were fiction no one would believe it. I am so very very sorry. (((((((((((((Shelly)))))))))) My prayers are with you and your husband and his father. Bless your FIL for having given so much in service to others. Job had very little on you, dear. XOXOXOXOXOX Prayers, always, MaryAnn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fay A. Posted April 12, 2005 Share Posted April 12, 2005 Shelly, I am so sorry, Dear One, for all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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