SandyS Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 Well damnit! The stupid surgeon who told me on Tuesday that everything looked good and that there didn't appear to be any reason to remove my adrenal gland called at 6pm last night as we're walking out the door for dinner to tell me, "oh, well, after checking out all the scans and talking to my oncologist, it DOES need to come out" (!) I can't frickin' handle this. I just told everyone - family friends and co-workers - that everything was okay. Now we start over again...and I'm scared to death of this surgery. I'm going to talk to my onocologist and then go to a different surgeon for a second opinion, cuz there's no way I trust THIS one! Damnit! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 Oh crap. The second opinion is a good idea. Sorry Sandy... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MilliBr1 Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 I agree get the second opinion. Keeping you in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gail p-m Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 That's just not right! Definintely a second opinion is called for. You must be unbelievably frustrated. Second opinion! Gail p-m Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna G Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 Sandy, I am so sorry for the "crash". Perhaps an angel wispered in the surgeons ear and he couldn't ignore what he heard. My prayers that all decisions are the right ones. Donna G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 Sandy, Run for a second opinion, I went through an unnecessary operation last year, at the hands of a very capable but over enthusiastic scalpel holder, I yelled so loud in the right ears, that now at 42 years old, that surgeon is back for one more year on the benches to study again. Prayers and best vibes and wishes for you. xoxo J.C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindi o'h Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 Sandy!! If I ever need level-headed advice, I am coming to you. Sounds like you got your ducks in a row and are absolutely doing the right thing! Just so sorry they have you in a tizzie. Prayers of guidance for the right advice to you. Cindi o'h Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 Sandy, I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I agree with the others that a second opinion is defintely in order at this point in time. I know you are praying for no surgery , but most important is to get the right decision. Keeping you in my prayers. (((Hugs))), Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nancy B Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 Oh Sandy, what rotten news. It sure seems like they play with our emotions. Definitely get a second opinion and if they say take it out, then get it out of there. I am praying for you. Love and hugs, Nancy B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 Very frustrating. Sorry. Hope you find resolution to this to your satisfaction. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chloesmom Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 Oh, Sandy, talk about ups and downs....get your second opinion. What about one of the big hospitals? I've been so pleased with my care at the Univ. of Chicago.....I hope everything works out ok for you. Cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patkid Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 How unfair!!!!!!! How are you supposed to hang on for a ride like that? That surgeon needs a good talking to (As my grandma used to say). You are doing all the right things in just the right order. We are offering prayer for good guidence and solid decisions. Sandy, we are scared, too. Hold on to us, if you want to. Love Pat and Brian Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Connie B Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 OH CRAP ! (((((((((((((SANDY)))))))))))))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 Oh Sandy, Doesn't it seem sometimes that we, the patients, have it more together than those we turn to for healing - especially when some of them seem to be on totally different pages??? I have found that. Guess that's why I got 4 opinions! Hope you get another opinion and get a doctor and surgeon who are working as a team FOR YOU!!!! AND - to drop that on you at 6:00PM FRIDAY NIGHT !!! Let us know ASAP what's what. Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fay A. Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 I sure am sorry to hear that the surgery may be necessary after all. I really understand your frustration, especially after having seen the surgeon already and being told you don't need an operation. But perhaps what happened is he initially took the stance that so many medical providers take: You're a Lung Cancer Patient...Why Bother. Perhaps something happened to make him want to treat, to help. Just guessing here. Just hoping that you are okay, no matter what happens, no matter what you decide. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 Crapola, I don't know what else to say, this stinks. Drs. need to take a course called Caring for the Patient. I agree, another opinion is required. Prayers for only good news. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gail Posted May 7, 2005 Share Posted May 7, 2005 Maybe a small crash but no burning yet!!! Standing right with ya gail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted May 8, 2005 Share Posted May 8, 2005 Ah Poop!Sorry for the let down.I would advise other opinion as well. Keep your chin up and don't let a dr. like this ruin a weekend or a dinner out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa O Posted May 8, 2005 Share Posted May 8, 2005 *@*&!! Good luck with the next opinion! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nancy c Posted May 8, 2005 Share Posted May 8, 2005 sandy--do get a 2nd opinion! this is bull crap --why all these ups and downs when the cancer itself is enough to deal with. You hang in there and god bless,nancy c Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daggiesmom Posted May 8, 2005 Share Posted May 8, 2005 Sorry to hear that, but at least you have the option of getting another opinion and then deciding what to do. Hang in there! Joanie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marie Posted May 8, 2005 Share Posted May 8, 2005 Sandy, add me to the list. If you no longer trust the surgeon it's time to move on. I know the doctors have to deal with it everyday, but they just don't seem to understand how hard the ups and downs are on us. I'm sending good wishes your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathy Posted May 8, 2005 Share Posted May 8, 2005 Sandy, Add me to the list, absolutely second opinion... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Addie Posted May 9, 2005 Share Posted May 9, 2005 Frustrating....for sure! Get the second opinion...it'll make you feel better no matter what ultimately happens, I think. Sending you calming vibes and strength...and sending wisdom vibes for any doc involved! Hope you get this all resolved to your satisfaction and comfort. It's hard sometimes...knowing if we are making the right choice...huh? Keep us posted.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don M Posted May 9, 2005 Share Posted May 9, 2005 Bummer, Sandy. Get the second opinion. Don M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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