wondermom Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 I can't even believe I am writing here. My mom passed yesterday afternoon around 3:00. She was surrounded by me, my dad, my brother and sister, her parents, and other family. We were there for her last breath and it took our breath away too. We knew this day was coming but when it happened we just couldn't believe she was gone. How are we supposed to go on? She was our family stone...our rock. My Dad is beside himself. He keeps saying he is helpless without her. She did everything for him. This will be an enormous adjustment for him. Now we are planning a funeral. We don't have anything for mom to wear. Nothing has been prepared. Mom wanted to do that a couple months ago but Dad didn't want to think about it because at that time she was doing pretty well. Now he wishes he would have. They were sole mates. I listened as my dad told mom about that first night they were married. He said he woke up the next morning and reached over for her to make sure it wasn't a dream. To make sure she was really his and by his side. He said the past few days he had been doing that again. Reaching for her...making sure she was still there. Now she won't be there. Not in the same way. My heart is breaking. Mom was so strong. Even when she was so out of it. She must have known we were all in the room crying because she briefly came out of it and looked around. She saw us all crying and she said, "Come on now guys, hold it together. It will be okay." She was always looking out for us...loving us. It is such a mixed emotion. I am relieved that she is at peace and not in pain anymore, but I still want her here with us. I will miss her always. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EastCoastLadi Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 I am so very, very sorry about your mom, my prayers go out to you and your family today. Grace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Betts Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 I am so sorry to hear this sad news. I could barely get through your post with the tears in my eyes. I wish there was something I could say to help you feel better. Please accept my condolences. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
raneyf Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 I'm so sorry Jill. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MsC1210 Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 Jill I am so very, very sorry to read your post here. Please accept my sincere sympathies and condolences. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers Christine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 I know what a shock this is. Prayers and condolences to everyone in the family and also their friends and families. Keep your Dad close right now. He NEEDS a lot of support. this is a huge blow to him. Be there for him when he needs something. even judst to talk or anything. This is a very ahrd time for everyone i know. Hugs condolences and prayers... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teriw Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 Your mom sounds like a beautiful, strong woman who will be missed greatly. I'm so sorry for your family. Your dad is going to need your support and understanding as he walks this new and unfamiliar path. Remember, we're here when you need us too. Prayers, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Connie B Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 Oh Jill, I am SO SORRY! Oh Sweetie my heart aches for you. (((((((((((((JILL))))))))))))) My prayers are with you and your family during this very difficult time. My condolences. We're here for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nyka69 Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 What sad and terrible news. I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lilyjohn Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 So very sorry for your loss. Your dad will really need you for a while. Be there for him but let him lead the way. If he wants to talk listen if he wants to be alone give him space. Your loss is bad but nothing compared to his. My heart goes out to both of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 So sorry about the loss of your mother. My deepest sympathies. Praying that God gives your father and all the family strength for the coming days. Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 My heart just breaks for you, Jill, and for your dad as well. How can we ever be prepared for such a loss? You were such a support for both your parents, hope you know that. Her time was way too short, but what she has left here will last many lifetimes. Please know I'll be saying prayers to help you all through this phase of a most difficult journey. Many condolences. Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calintay Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. My heart breaks for you and your family. Much love and many prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Welthy Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 Jill, I'm stunned -- sorry for your loss doesn't barely touch how bad I feel for you. The strength that your Mom had continues in you. Hold fast to your faith and help your Dad as best as you can. May God bless you all at this time. Please take care of yourself -- I know you've been the rock through all of this too. Many hugs, Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fillise Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 Jill, I am so sorry for your loss. I teared up as I read you post but smiled when I read your mother's reaction to everyone crying. What a lady! I know you will miss her every day, but it sounds like there is a lot of her in you and that will give you needed strength in the days ahead. Much love, Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lc46 Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 I am so very sorry to hear the news about your Mom passing away. I wish you and your family much comfort,peace and strength in the upcoming days Dar Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 Oh Jill, I hate that it came to this. Please accept my deepest condolences to you and your family. I am so glad she had all her loves with her when she passed. As far as your dad, if you have siblings you will have to share in that responsibility in taking care of him. Poor guy, my heart goes out to him. Your mom will always live in that special place in your heart that is just reserved for moms. I know what you are going through, After all this time I still miss my mom so much. You have much to do. Please come back to us after the funeral so we can help you through your grieving. Take time to heal and know that we are always here for you. I am so so sorry. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leela Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 Jill, There are no words I can say to express how sorry I am to hear of the loss of your mom. My heart breaks for you and your family. My thoughts and prayers will be with you. I'm so sorry. Lisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 I have tears in my eyes as I type this to you. I am so sorry. We'll be here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DanaBrooke Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 I am so sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 Jill, I am so very sorry for you, your father, and your family, what a huge hole this will leave in all your hearts. I hope you are all able to get through the arrangements and the days ahead. My sympathy. Rochelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 (((Jill))), you and your family have my heartfelt sympathy. I am so very sorry . You have my prayers for strength to get you through this painfully difficult time. Love, Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzie Q Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 Please accept my deepest sympathies. Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomsGirl Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 (((Jill)))... I felt every ounce of your pain reading your e-mail, I could have written it myself a little over a year ago, and I'm so sorry that you are here on this board. I am crying as I write this, your mother sounds so strong and wonderful like mine, always thinking of her family - what a blessing that you all were there holding her hand and easing her passage into Heaven. My heart aches for your loss, though...I know all of us on this board understood everything you said, and the shock and loss you are feeling. I'm so, so sorry - I am sending out prayers and comforting thoughts to you tonight. Hugs... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jendew Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 I am so very sorry for your loss. It will not be easy for your father. My mom is still having a hard adjustment 1 year after losing my father. I wish there was something we could say or do to make it easier, but it's just not. Hang in there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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