Nushka Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 I am not sure where to post this and it has nothing to do with cancer except you all know what stress we are all under all the time from it. Well, to make a long story short, we were robbed Thursday morning early. We were both asleep and someone came into our house and took my purse and my husbands wallet (both of which were in the den) I feel so violated and angry at the same time. We spent thursday with the sheriff's dept and friday at the court house getting new driver's licenses so that we could cash a check and go to the grocery store. We spent yesterday with the locksmith changing all the locks on the doors and calling credit card companies to cancel accounts. I also had to stop payment on a new book of checks I had just added to my check book. Thank God no one was hurt but am not afraid in my own house. We all have enough to worry about without this kind of thing. I have trouble breathing sometimes and find that the outside country air helps..so I often go outside at all hours of the night to "breathe" as my husband puts it. Now I am scared to leave our back steps. I am sure we will be fine (the sheriff said that 99% of the time they never come back) but it will never be the same. We have 14 acres of land and most of it is woods. I like the fact that it gives us privacy but now it makes me afraid that I won't see someone. Any way...I am sorry to rant about something off the subject but had to get it off my chest. Nina PS> This is nothing compared to what most of you are going through...and I am sorry to make such a big deal of it. Nothing like this has ever happened to me before but it sure doesn't compare to cancer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debi Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Nina, I am so sorry to hear about what happened to you. It's easy to say, well you weren't hurt or anything, you were lucky. However, you never quite get back that innocence that is lost when something like this happens. I understand your feeling of being violated and know that what the sheriff said is most likely true..it won't happen again. The problem is, that it happened at all. I hope that each day you get back a bit of normalcy to your life. Not sure if you already have one but maybe a big dog will make you feel safer?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fall54 Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Dear Nina, I am also sorry about how something like this makes you feel. Your home is your domain or your retreat from the world and when someone steps in and does something like this ... it takes that feeling away of always being safe in your home. Yes, Cancer is worse but this aslo hurts so dont think you are raving but that you are sharing with us your life with cancer. I pray that you and your hubby will be safe. God Bless You, Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TBone Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Hi, I understand how violated you feel at the house invasion and burglary.In 1973 I was living in Hawaii while in the Navy.We had just returned from a 6 month deployment to the Orient.I wasn't on a ship.I flew so I went to a lot more places than ships do.When we returned to Hawaii,there were 5 or us sharing a house,we all went out to dinner.Gone maybe 2 hours.While we were out we were robbed.Of everything in the house.Including everything I had bought in the Orient,my cameras, and even all my photos and slides.It still makes me sick to think about it.I live in the country now but I have a German Sheppard that keeps people away.Have you considered that?Praying for us all.TBone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shirleyb Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 I am so sorry you were robbed. It hurts to think someone would do that to you. I am thankful neither of you were hurt. Shirleyb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angie Daughter of Bill Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Nina I am so sorry that happened to you. My Mom's house was robbed about four months ago. She described the same feelings that you did. To make matters worse, they were robbed by someone who they had been helping. (giving cash to them for a "fresh start".........long story there) Like the others said, get you a dog. I live in the country also. When we moved here, I went to our local animal shelter and adopted two beautiful dogs. They aren't real big, just medium size, but boy can they BARK big!! The dogs always let me know when someone is around. (or if a coyote is lurking in our pasture, or if a rabbit runs across the yard......heck, they bark at everything) Hope you are feeling safe again soon!! Angie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SandyS Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Nina - No one needs that kind of crap on top of the crap you're already going thru. I know the violation you mean - had a break in years ago - didn't even actually take anything (police say they must have been looking for cash or drugs - pulled everything out of drawers, etc.) and I never felt comfortable there again. Every time I took out a pair of underwear I couldn't help think "some stranger touched these!". Ending up moving! Dogs are good.......... Hugs......... SandyS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brm1949 Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Dogs not only make good warning systems but also my great companions. I have a beagle right now but before her we had Labadores which are great dogs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jana_W Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Oh Nina People can be SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO awful. I am so sorry you have had to endure it, but am so glad no-one was hurt. My thoughts are with you, as they always are Jana xxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Nina, Sorry your home was invaded, to me that the word that describe such a situation. We always had dogs so did not have to face a house robbery. Hope you start feeling safe again in and around your home. J.C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Addie Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 The picture to the left shows my two "alarm systems"...which run rather cheaply on kibble! Nina, I'm so sorry this happened to you...but am so glad nobody was physically hurt. Still...the psychic injury of home invasion is huge, I think. You know, I likened being diagnosed with cancer to a home invasion....to that feeling of being violated. None of us *invited* the cancer to invade our bodies either...and in many cases it's just as shocking when it does, as to have someone break into your home and rob you! I'm not sure how you feel about pets...dogs specifically....but living out in the woods as you do, somewhat isolated....even a small to medium sized dog will make a great early warning system. A dog's hearing will pick up on noises we would NEVER hear...and then they sound the alarm! They say most criminals who break into homes will avoid houses where a dog makes noise. Noise alerts people....so a robber will rather choose a home where NO dog is barking to alert anyone. Perhaps adding a little pound pup to your family would be a good idea. You'd gain some protection in the form of a barking alarm system....and at the same time, if you adopt a pound or shelter animal...you save a life! My two furry pound yahoos also provide hours of free entertainment and some of the best lap cuddles anyone could want (beyond those darling grandsons of yours! ) I'm glad you weren't hurt, Nina...but again, I'm so sorry for the feelings of violation that make you feel unsafe in your own home. Nobody should be made to feel that way....nobody! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa O Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Iam so sorry Nina. I can understand your feelings. How awful for someone to just help themselves to belongings of others. I hope you can feel safe again soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haylee_38 Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 I am so sorry you had to go through this. We have 3 saint bernards so are house is safe but are van was not. In Feb. are van was robbed right in front of are home. Took everything tv, vcr , cd's , etc... makes you so mad and you get left feeling so violated. Haylee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Nina,I know that feeling also.We were robbed years ago (not while we were home).It took several years for that violated feeling to go away.Now we have a dog that will bark and I have a big gun that I will use.Prayers to you,normalcy will return but it takes awhile. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stand4hope Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Nina, You sure didn't need this. Nobody does. Everyone I've ever known who had something like this happen to them says they feel the same way you do. I, too, vote for getting a dog or two. They not only guard your house and protect you, but you will fall in love with them and they with you. This is nothing compared to what most of you are going through...and I am sorry to make such a big deal of it. I think that everything that happens to everyone on this board is a big deal to all of us because we really are family. I would feel sad if someone had "a big deal" like this happen to them and couldn't share their feelings with all of us. Thank God that we can. Love, Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jamie Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Nina, That is a VERY scary thing to have happened to you. I hope that you can go back to feeling comfortable very soon. I guess you can say that you were luck to have been asleep, cause god knows what would have happened. So sorry you have this adding to your stress level Jamie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Bumer! You have a right to feel violated. And the aggrevation besides. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David A Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 I'm so sorry that this has happened to you, no one deserves that violation. I would have to agree with the others about dogs, our dog though not has a very intimidating bark and growl epecially at night, I don't think she would hurt a soul but I don't tell very many people that. I'm sorry Nina and hope you get some sense of security back. David Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddy Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Hello Nina, Having someone creep into your home while you are asleep is just the most horrible thing and violation is the only way to describe it! I know how you must be feeling and I am so sorry this happened I must tell you something that a friend of ours ,(who lives in South Africa ,) told us, you won't believe it. In South Africa now, robberies and car jackings are a way of life, but the way this one was carried out was amazing. Apparently, one day a family were sitting in their lounge, (talking after lunch,) and a robber , (with a motor-cycle helmet on his head,) charged their glass door with his head down like a charging bull, and smashed into the house. Once in, he held them up with a gun and he and his accomplices proceeded to rob them of all they had! A drastic change from night robberies I would say! Paddy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna G Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 The only house I ever lived in that had an alarm system was in the woods. Donna G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 We also live in the woods and have two dogs - the little one is especially alert to any changes and plenty loud. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowflake Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Nina, I'm so sorry to hear of the home invasion. During times where some of these home invasions are masochistic and end horribly, I'm so glad that whoever took whatever they wanted and got the hell out! My suggestion for working on that violated feeling AND being able to live in your house "comfortably" would be to discuss it with a counselor. Not a cop out here, just helps you to get those feelings out and deal with them. ...and don't compare it to the cancer, a home invasion is a far more imminent danger where you have NO control. You do have SOME control with fighting the cancer... xxoo, Becky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fay A. Posted July 12, 2004 Share Posted July 12, 2004 Nina, I wish it hadn't happened. And I don't know what to say, except invest in a good home security system, invest in some motion lighting for the tree line, and don't allow these thiefs to rob you of your pleasure in your own home. But mostly I wish it hadn't happened at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nushka Posted July 12, 2004 Author Share Posted July 12, 2004 Thank you all for your support and sympathy. The strange thing about all of this is that we do have a dog. Granted she is little (8 lbs) and (10 years old) but we thought she would bark. If she heard them at all she must have come into the den and licked them. Makes us wonder if it wasn't someone she had met before. There were pain meds out and they didn't take them...just the purse and wallet. Things are a little better today than yesterday and I hope it continues to get better...so that I feel safer. Again, thank you to all of you for being here for me. Nina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SJAS Posted July 12, 2004 Share Posted July 12, 2004 Nina, Makes you wonder who is really the SICK one, eh. That is just so infuriating. Glad you're feeling a bit better. Hey, I thought little dogs were supposed to have a "big dog" ego? Ha! We have two of the large, economy size ourselves - can I send you the one who is totally spoiled?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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