Don M Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 I rarely vent here. In fact, I may never have done it. I have had this thought percolating through my mind now for weeks...months. I have thought about posting it in the venting manner, but have postponed the vent, putting it off, avoiding the negative state of mind it probably represents. Now, I am actually going to say what is on my mind, although it may not be the established, correct lung cancer survivor state of mind. Here goes: “The New Normal Sucks!” There… I have said it and got it off my chest. I think I am just going to have to live with the negative part of the “new normal” and enjoy the positive stuff that comes along. I think my attitude may improve if my next scan shows a dead tumor and no new disease. Don M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 Glad you said it, Don. And ya know........I mostly gotta agree with ya. Hopefully tomorrow it won't look quite so bad, but don'tcha just miss that 'old' normal some days? Here's to all of us who would like that 'old' normal back! Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joanie55 Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 I'll drink to that. I don't think we would be rational not to miss the old normal. It's just that to carry on we have to make the best of what we have. We're here and that's plenty to be thankful for. I for one am glad that you (we) have somewhere to be able to say how you truely feel. I hope It takes a little bit of that weight off. Joan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharonjo Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 Hey Don, I'm with you, the new normal does suck! I hope your next scan shows lots of improvement!!! God Bless, Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 Understood. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carolhg Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 I certainly am praying that you have a dead tumor and no new growth on your next scan Don. Prayers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 Hang in there Don. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrea Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 My parents (and me) ditto your sentiment. This new normal is suck a ducky, hate it, don't want it, blah blah bahhumbug. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamataca Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 Amen, my brother! Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jang Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 I'll drink to that too! I miss my "old normal". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chloesmom Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 Totally agree, Don. Cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MEA Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 You're right Don....this new normal does suck! As for the old....sure do miss a good nights sleep. Hang in there. Mary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nushka Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 Don, I have said the same thing. I hope your scans are great and you can get a good deep breath. Don't feel bad about hating this disease. We all do. Treatments are no fun and symptoms are no fun, and after effects are no fun...but waking up each day is fun. Hope we all wake up many, many more days. Nina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 You are so right Don, I am glad you said it!! I am toasting to you, for a good result next time, da*n it. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dchurchi Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 Don, How right you are, the "New Normal" Sucks Alan and I are praying your next scans show dead tumor Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Linda661 Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 Couldn't agree with you more there Don. We'd probably all wonder about someone who thought this was all just a cake walk & no big deal, so I wouldn't worry that you have "the wrong attitude." Glad you vented, my friend. Got everything crossed for clear scans coming next month for you. (and staying that way!) Linda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blaze100 Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 Hi Don, This waiting for news really sucks too. I think you need to go shopping for a new toy Don. Something to take your mind off of things? Maybe a new red 2-stroke or 4-stoke or powerstroke or black superglide? (My hubby is always talking about these things, but to me they sound like lubricants ) Or maybe it's time to pack up the car or camper and head off on a road trip south into the sun for awhile. My prayers are with you Don. Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Littlegirl Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 Don - Yep! It sure does! I'm glad you came here to share that sentiment with us. And I'm not worried about your attitude, you always seem to find the bright side. Hoping your next scan results will have you posting here with words of celebration! Hang in there, Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patkid Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 I am glad to see your post. Glad that your shared how you feel and want you to know how much I care. Love Pat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raindog Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 "Normal" has always been a subjective term cancer or no cancer My addition to your vent is this: CANCER SUCKS! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dazy Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 Hey Don! Yeah...new normal BITES, and I haven't even received a dx yet What bites even more is that you felt hesitant to express that here, and carried it around inside for so long!! You have been a pillar for so many. Being a survivor doesn't mean you have to be Pollyanna, ya know??? So rant, scream, vent, whine, etc. ALL you want here!! Then we'll help you get back in the hunt again, okay? In the meantime, LOTS of prayers, and positive vibes for a fried tumor!!! Understanding ((((HUGS)))) headed your way. Maybe that Harley & sunshine ain't such a bad idea, either! Yours in HOPE!! Stacey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindi o'h Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 well, Don. Got me to nod a compassionate grin at cha. I have been known to say a couple of times (when I have had it up to here!) ...she points above her eyebrows with a military slash.... "I just want my shiddy old life back!" And then I laugh at my own joke.... Gotta get it off the chest every so often. Makes you feel better, you know? Then back to the ring to fight. I'm betting on YOU to win, Don! Cindi o'h Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Welthy Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 Oh Don --- Tony and I also miss our old lives so very much. We understand completely. Of course, there are those who would say that we have never been "normal"... (((Hugs))) Welthy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowflake Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 Amen, Don! ...and if one more person tells me that my complaints are "little trade-offs", I cannot be held responsible for the butt-kickin' they will receive... Gaining over 60 pounds is NO 'little trade off'. Having itchy/crawly skin ESPECIALLY in areas I can't reach (some due to the extra 60 pounds, some due to being in the middle of my back) is NO 'little trade off'. Always feeling tired is NO 'little trade off'. Losing all semblance of concentration and focus when prior to the "new normal" that was something that came soooo easy is NO 'little trade off'. Feeling anxious about every little ache and pain is NO 'little trade off'. Going from a nice complexion to "problem skin" is NO 'little trade off'. Sure, I'm glad I'm alive, I really am. I'm SOOOO happy to be around to b*tch, BUT, it is NOT a "little trade off", it's a damn BIG trade! Yep, the new normal sucks... ...and I hope your scans show ol' dead tumors and your life gets back on the rocky trail of "new normal" in a better environment. (Sorry I pushed you over on the soap box, I'm getting back down now...sorry...your turn...) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 I am a waterboy not a fighter but yes I agree with everyone. The new Normal sucks and so does Cancer. Prayers and Warm Blankets tonite. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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